235-Is Fantasy Bad?

Delight Your Marriage

Belah Rose

Sexuality, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Christianity

4.7 • 589 Ratings

🗓️ 1 February 2020

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

So this is one of those topics that even when we're talking about intimacy we don't talk about.

But because I have the honor of speaking to women and men about some of the stuff they have never told ANYBODY, this comes up.

I want to share this episode because I want to help you. I don't want you to feel alone and icky and like you're sinning. Maybe you're not OR what are the specific Biblical boundaries?

Maybe there are small tweaks you can make to your thought-life that will align them with God's will. Maybe there are wees growing in the garden of your mind and they need to be pulled up and we'll talk about that.

But you may be surprised by some of my thoughts even around homosexuality. It starts in the mind and what we focus on grows. Just because someone has same-sex attraction doesn't make them gay. I want to clear about that because that's an insecurity a lot of people have.

I believe we all have proclivities, it's what we do with those proclivities that matter. Some of us are more violent, some of us easily lie and some of us have other proclivities we need to keep in check. What you focus on grows. So if you're focusing on the ways God wants you to be attracted and turned on by your spouse, I think you might be quite surprised by the way God will redirect your thoughts, feelings and even stimulation just by directing your fantasy-life.

I am SO excited to invite you to my 3-part FREE Online Seminar, people had amazing things to say about it!

www.delightyourmarriage.com/renew

There's only a couple of days left to go and get the replay!

"Belah, your webinar was absolutely amazing, we both enjoyed it and can't wait for the other 2! You have such an incredible insight on the male - female relationship that we haven't seen from any other relationship expert!

Your content was spot on and was such an awesome introduction. Where were you 25 years ago!!!!!!!" - Husband

"Thank you so much, Belah, for the distilling a lifetime of wisdom and teaching about God's plan for marital happiness, family harmony and personal fulfillment into one webinar!!!" -Wife of 32 years

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Delight Your Marriage podcast. You're joining me, Bella Rose, as I dive deep into the beauty, power, and truths about intimacy.
0:11.7	Learn not only the practicals, but the heart behind what making love is all about. Delight your marriage.
0:23.6	Hi there. This is Bella Rose. Thank you so much for joining me.
0:28.0	If you have never been to the Delight Your Marriage podcast, I want to invite you and let you know that this is a safe place to talk about intimacy in marriage because it's really
0:39.1	all about helping you love your spouse the way that they receive love and that's what we talk
0:47.3	about on this podcast we talk about intimacy because I think we don't talk enough about the real issues and the real questions that people have.
0:58.1	And my hope and heart is to help and encourage you to have the best marriage that you can have so that you can do God's work the best you can do.
1:09.2	You know, when Paul talks about not burning with passion,
1:13.6	he basically is saying get married so you can get on with what God wants you to do. So you stop
1:20.6	burning with passion because it's in the right place when it's in your marriage. The trouble is
1:26.8	what if you don't have passion in your
1:31.5	marriage? Now that's an issue. So I'm not one that wants you to be obsessed with sex. I don't even
1:39.4	follow sex experts as a sex expert. I do learn here and there when I need to learn something or whatever,
1:46.6	but I'm not an avid listener or reader of certain things. I mean, every now and then if I feel like
1:53.6	I can help someone better if I know more about it, but I pretty much know what I need to know
1:58.8	in order to help the people I think that God needs me to help.
2:02.5	I'm not obsessed with this stuff. And I don't think you are either. I think you want to love your
2:07.7	spouse well so that you can do God's will and his work the best. And so when I invite you to think
2:16.0	about things in a different way, it's not out of an obsession.
2:20.3	It's out of how can you love your spouse so they're filled up so they can do their work for the kingdom.
2:27.9	So here's what I want to do.
2:29.4	I want to talk about the online seminar that I put together.
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