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Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

235. "Can we pay off this debt faster?" (Part 2)

Money For Couples with Ramit Sethi

Ramit Sethi

Relationships, Society & Culture, Investing, Business

4.63.1K Ratings

🗓️ 18 November 2025

⏱️ 87 minutes

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Summary

Imani (52) and Michael (65) return for Part 2—and this time, Ramit pushes them to find out how fast they can turn things around. After years of miscommunication, mounting debt, and emotional exhaustion, they’ve finally started tackling their finances together. But when Facet’s retirement scenarios reveal how long their money will really last, they’re forced to confront new tradeoffs: spend less now, retire later, or change their lifestyle entirely. Can Michael step up and lead? Can Imani release control and start dreaming again? Or will their old habits slow their progress before it even begins? A special thanks to Facet for sponsoring this episode. Right now, Facet is waiving their $250 enrollment fee for new annual members. And if you invest and maintain $5,000 within your first 90 days, they’ll add $300 to your brokerage account. Head to facet.com/ramit to see which membership—Core, Plus, or Complete—is right for you. (Ramit is not a member of Facet, and he has an incentive to endorse Facet as he has an ongoing fee based contract for cash compensation based on this endorsement. All opinions are his own and not a guarantee of a similar outcome.) In this episode we uncover: • Why Michael finally decides to take ownership after decades of financial avoidance • The moment Imani says she’s “tapping out” if things don’t change • How they discover Michael’s electronics obsession is more than clutter—it’s avoidance • The shocking realization that their debt payments eat up one-third of their take-home pay • How selling off $7,000 of electronics became the turning point for their marriage • What it felt like for Imani to finally let go of control and let Michael lead • Why teamwork and a clear plan helped them pay off $6,000 in just four weeks • How both partners confront what “enough” really means • The couple’s new shared dream: retiring abroad and living a simpler, freer life Chapters: (00:00:03) “I’m angry at Michael, I’m angry at myself” (00:18:03) “I’ve lost the ability to dream” (00:34:45) “It’s gotta work” (00:40:17) “I got the fever to start selling stuff” (00:51:47) “I could see the cloud starting to separate” (01:06:29) “I feel excited, inspired, energized” (01:22:39) Where are they now? Imani and Michael’s follow-ups This episode is brought to you by: Wispr Flow | Voice-to-text AI that turns speech into clear, polished writing in any app. Try it for free at https://wisprflow.ai/ramit Gelt | Book a tax consultation with Gelt at https://joingelt.com/ramit. As a member of my community, you can skip the waitlist MasterClass | For unlimited access to every class and up to 50% off an annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit ZocDoc | Download the ZocDoc app for FREE at https://zocdoc.com/ramit then find and book a top-rated doctor today #sponsored Shopify | Sign up for a $1 per month trial period at https://shopify.com/ramit Links mentioned in this episode • If you want help with your finances, join my Money Coaching program at https://iwt.com/moneycoaching Connect with Ramit • Get my new book, Money For Couples • Get Money Coaching with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here.

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0:00.0

Previously on money for couples, what do you think about this debt? I'm angry at Michael. I'm angry at

0:05.4

myself. Michael has 1012 laptops. What the f*** 12 laptops? Yeah. He's at the point now where he should

0:13.4

be able to retire, but he can't. This is my vision or my goal. Someone kind of manage the money

0:19.8

and make sure that it goes in the right places. I don't

0:22.8

have that knowledge to do with that. If this doesn't work, what does it mean for you? Be honest,

0:26.9

I'm tapping out. I can't keep doing this. It would be truthful. After our conversation, I got

0:32.0

kind of f***ed off. I kind of got the fever to start selling stuff. How do we wipe the debt out so

0:36.6

that our net worth continues to rise?

0:38.8

How much debt have you paid off since we last talked?

0:42.7

$6,000.

0:43.6

$6,000 since we last talked?

0:46.1

If we had no debt, right?

0:47.5

If we had just the mortgage, we'd be well over a million today.

0:51.4

When couples have a lot of debt, one of the most common phrases they say is,

0:55.7

we're just going to die with this debt. But virtually none of them has ever run a simple debt

1:02.6

payoff calculation. They've basically just given up. When will their debts be paid off?

1:08.0

What happens if they pay more or pay less? What levers can they pull to

1:12.2

speed things up? They don't ask these questions because it's uncomfortable and people don't like to

1:18.5

feel stupid about money. No wonder they feel so bad about debt. They've never even taken five

1:24.4

minutes to figure out a plan to get rid of it. But that's exactly what we do

1:28.4

here on money for couples. Today we're back with Imani and Michael. They're 52 and 65 years old.

1:33.4

And after 20 years of marriage, they finally combined their finances just four years ago and everything

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