233 - Redefining Self-Love: Loving Yourself Enough to do Hard Things | Life Happens Podcast
Life Happens with Barb & Michelle
Michelle Maros & Barb Schmidt
4.9 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2025
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Self-love isn’t always soft, easy, or comfortable—sometimes it means giving yourself the tough love you’ve avoided and finally doing the hard things. Growth happens in the moments we choose courage over comfort. 💫
This week on Life Happens with Barb & Michelle, we’re answering your questions about self-love and how to build a strong foundation within. With envy, self-doubt, comparison, and self-judgment at an all-time high, this conversation offers a gentle, grounded guide for breaking through the noise and cultivating real confidence.
💬 Barb opens up about the power of positive self-talk and how it helped her heal from perfectionism and years of self-doubt.
💬 Michelle shares her personal experience with envy and how understanding the root of it transformed her relationship with herself.
✨ Episode Highlights
• Cultivating Real Self-Love: How to act with compassion even when your mind is filled with negative thoughts.
• Releasing Tough Love Habits: Identifying when you’re bypassing your emotions and learning to honour your true self-love language.
• From Envy to Self-Satisfaction: Recognizing comparison, interrupting the negative narrative, and rewriting your internal dialogue.
• Navigating Singleness: It’s okay to feel disappointment—while still choosing joy, connection, and fulfillment in your life today.
Remember: You don’t need to earn your self-love. There is nothing you must prove or achieve to be worthy of kindness, compassion, and care. 🌸
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💛 Episode Topics:
- Releasing self-doubt and constant self-criticism
- Cultivating kinder, more loving self-talk
- Letting go of judgment, comparison, and the urge to “fix” yourself
- Finding genuine satisfaction and love for your life as it is
- Navigating singleness with confidence and self-worth
💬 We’d love to hear from you! What insight or moment resonated most with you in this episode? Share in the comments—we truly read every one.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everyone. Hi friends and welcome back to Life Happens with Barb and Michelle. We are so excited that you are here with us this week. We have an amazing Q&A episode today. How excited, Mom? I'm excited. Which we always love it. We always love sharing Q&As with you. And we're always so grateful for you sending in your questions. |
| 0:21.7 | If you have things that you want clarification on or things that just aren't sitting right, |
| 0:26.9 | or you just want my insight, your insight, any of the things. So we're so happy to be with you. |
| 0:32.8 | We're so happy that you're here with us. And, you know, in spirit of what we've been chatting about this |
| 0:38.7 | month, we wanted to dive in deeper with questions regarding self-love. Because prior to us |
| 0:45.8 | starting to hit filming and recording and all of that, you mom said to me, you didn't say it was off the record. |
| 0:56.0 | Prior to all this, you said you really still feel like you think that self-love is not |
| 1:02.6 | misunderstood, but you said outdated. |
| 1:05.7 | And I don't think it's outdated, but I think you still have a desire to bring light to it in a different way so that |
| 1:13.5 | it's really real for people. So I know that's a tall order, but I believe in you and I believe |
| 1:18.3 | in us. And I think that we can break it down and dive into some of these questions to hopefully |
| 1:23.6 | give everyone a deeper sense of self-love is why it's an important practice, why we |
| 1:29.8 | believe in it, and why we talk about it so often. And before I let you go, my book is out this |
| 1:37.9 | month. Yes. And I wanted to read an entry from my book about self-love. But I just want to say |
| 1:44.1 | one thing. Sure. You're right. I use the for you too. But I just want to say one thing. |
| 1:44.3 | Sure. |
| 1:44.8 | You're right. |
| 1:45.3 | I use the word outdated, but I didn't. |
| 1:47.0 | That's probably not the, as I reflect on it, it's probably not the correct word because we got so many questions about self-love and you're going to hear. I think misunderstood. It's what you were. I think maybe misunderstood, but my biggest thing as you were talking, I was thinking, I just |
| 2:01.3 | want people to get it because I didn't have it. I had no clue. And if somebody would have told me |
| 2:06.7 | 40 years ago, you just have to love yourself, be like, what? I don't even know what that means. |
| 2:11.9 | So I think it's my innate desire because I did not have it for the first 30 years of my life. I think it's my |
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