231. “Low Libido is Not a Problem to Me” - Caffyn Jesse

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 1 October 2023

⏱️ 45 minutes

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“Low Libido is Not a Problem to Me” - Caffyn Jesse Caffyn Jesse is a queer elder, sacred intimate, teacher and writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic. They are a renowned teacher of sex, intimacy and healing trauma with pleasure. Thanks to our sponsor Sprout Pharmaceuticals addyi.com/notbroken Thanks to our sponsor Uber Lube 10% off, Code NOTBROKEN uberlube.com She tells us how she went through her journey at age 40 and found her erotic energy "You are not broken" is the name and theme of my podcast – She tells us how her work relates to this? In your book, “Science for Sexual Happiness” she says – “Can you imagine a way of being sexual that is energized and playful, passionate and flowing? “ - I think for so many people it is a hell no. How they would work with pain with penetrative sex. How they would work with low libido. We have so much experience consenting to things we don’t really want” – Caffyn Jesse Tips for being stuck in a sexual rut? How can erotic massage change our experience of sex? In your book “Intimacy Educator: teaching through touch” – you have a whole chapter on touching a vulva owner. Tips. How they deal with erectile dysfunction What do you do on your retreats? Science for Sexual Happiness by Caffyn Jesse Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch by Caffyn Jesse https://ecstaticbelonging.com/ https://www.facebook.com/caffynjesse/ https://www.instagram.com/caffynjesse/ Did you get my “You Are Not Broken” Book Yet? https://amzn.to/3p18DfK Listen to my Tedx Talk: Why we need adult sex ed Join my NEW Adult Sex Ed Master Class: https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/adult-sex-ed Join my membership to get these episodes ASAP when they are created and without advertisement and even listen live to the interviews and episodes. www.kellycaspersonmd.com/membership --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You are listening to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology to re-educate your brain and help you live your best love life. And I'm your host, board-certified female urologist, Dr. Kelly Casperson.
0:16.8	Hello, everybody. Welcome back. I am so excited to have a very special guest today. Their name is
0:22.8	Kaffin Jesse, and they're a sacred, intimate, teacher, sex educator, and a writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic.
0:32.3	They're a renowned teacher of sex intimacy and healing trauma with pleasure. Thank you so much for joining us today.
0:39.5	Thank you so much for having me, Kelly. Can you tell us your story? Most people I've talked to,
0:45.0	they were not born to be the person who educates about bodies and intimacy. Can you tell us your
0:51.8	journey on how you got to find your work? Yes, I got into the work
0:55.9	through my own personal healing journey, and it was late in life. I was already in my 40s,
1:02.9	and in a place of being quite frozen and shut down sexually in a long-term partnership.
1:10.7	That basically wasn't much going on.
1:15.1	I was having a very stressful time in life and I just started having regular body work.
1:20.2	And suddenly my erotic energy started to come alive.
1:25.5	And at the same time with it, these embodied trauma memories. So I'd always had
1:31.9	the recognition that I'd experienced childhood trauma and sexual abuse, but it had not been so
1:40.1	present in my body. And it was just somehow reconnecting with my body through body work was
1:46.1	just really shaking me and vivifying all these memories. But at the same time, this sense of
1:54.0	arrows in me that it's like, I want this. I don't want to let this go. And I felt like there must be some way to explore this that's safe enough and brave enough for me to keep on following this thread. And so I looked and looked. I found some really awful people that describe themselves as sexual healers, and I found some really
2:19.7	fantastic people, and the fantastic ones were connected with the lineage that I got really excited
2:26.1	about being part of, and like it was Elfie Shaw on Gabriola Island, connected me with
2:32.8	Joseph Kramer's work,
2:34.3	and I studied sex logical body work,
2:37.1	and was just in at the development of when people were talking about,
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