231: How to Deal With Unmet Needs in a Relationship: 2 Secrets You Rarely Hear
The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle
Laura Doyle
4.8 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 23 April 2024
⏱️ 78 minutes
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Summary
When I got married, I thought my husband would support me, kiss away my tears, listen to my problems, desire me, snuggle with me, and do everything he could toward our common goals. And he did—for a while. When he became distant, I felt bamboozled and just knew that something was wrong with him. I thought I would have to end it and find someone who COULD meet my needs, which was scary and dreadful. The longer we struggled and went to marriage counseling, the more hopeless I felt. I was working hard on the relationship, but I was doing all the wrong things. Turns out, I just needed to learn a few skills that contribute to a playful, passionate relationship where all my needs and desires are met because he naturally wants to make me happy, not because I’m begging him to meet my needs (yuck!). On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about how to deal with unmet needs in a relationship.
And, my guest Raquel was still a newlywed when her husband moved out suddenly, wouldn’t say why and wouldn’t come back. Then Raquel discovered the Intimacy Skills and dove right in. Today, her marriage is better than she ever thought it could be, even better than when they were dating. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.
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| 0:00.0 | Today on the Empowered Wife podcast. |
| 0:03.0 | But when he came back, it's like immediately upon walking in the door I knew something wasn't right. |
| 0:10.0 | He was very distant, very, like he didn't want to be in the same room, he didn't really want to talk a whole lot. |
| 0:17.0 | And this went on for days. |
| 0:19.0 | And I kept asking him, what's wrong, what's wrong, what's wrong? |
| 0:21.0 | There was no response. So one day, me being the controlling |
| 0:27.2 | person that I was, I literally sat on top of him and I grabbed his face and I was like, |
| 0:32.1 | what is wrong with you? And then I saw |
| 0:34.8 | something kind of switch in his eyes where I knew he was going to say something and |
| 0:39.8 | he just said I need some time. And in that moment I knew we weren't talking about 20 minutes or |
| 0:46.2 | a week or and I didn't really know what the time was about, but I went ballistic. Well, |
| 0:55.0 | Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast |
| 1:00.0 | where it's all about fixing your marriage without your man's conscious effort |
| 1:03.6 | so that you feel desired and taken care of and special, |
| 1:08.2 | even if your relationship feels hopeless. |
| 1:11.1 | I'm Laura Doyle, and today I'm talking about how to deal with unmet needs in a relationship. |
| 1:15.9 | I'm going to share two secrets you rarely hear. |
| 1:20.0 | My guest Raquel was still a newlywed when her husband moved out suddenly and wouldn't say |
| 1:24.7 | why and wouldn't come back. |
| 1:27.3 | Then Raquel discovered the intimacy skills and she dove right in and today her marriage is better than she ever thought it could be, even better |
| 1:35.6 | than when they were dating. She's going to tell us how she did it, so you can do it too. But first, |
| 1:41.5 | let's talk about how to deal with unmet needs in a relationship. I'm going to share two secrets you rarely hear. |
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