Hey everybody, welcome back. We are talking more about intentional ideas for intimacy, just bite-sized ideas. So the bite-size idea today is building off what we talked about last week, which was creating capacity and comfortability with using sexual words. We talked about naming our private parts,

both anatomically and also playfully. And so this week we're going to talk about the idea

of how to talk during sex about what you desire. And so let's jump in.

Okay, God, thank you for the gift of words that you have given us the capacity to feel,

connect, and communicate.

And I pray that you would set us free from the shame and help us to move to a place

of deeper connection and communication with joy.

In Jesus' name, amen.

Okay, so here is an idea for you um after you get comfortable talking about anatomy and naming body parts another facet of health and

sexual communication looks like being able to talk during sex.

And so I mentioned the resource, the celebration of sex with Dr. Doug Rosenau.

He is in heaven, unfortunately, now because I'm sad because we benefit so much from him, but he has some great resources out there. And he uses the phrase having, um, it's really a stream of consciousness

conversation during sex. And this is something that was really hard for me because you often feel

maybe I felt in my head so much that I was having a hard time feeling in my body. And I was really

having a hard time articulating anything I was feeling. And it was really having a hard time feeling in my body and I was really having a hard time articulating

anything I was feeling and I was really having a hard time articulating what I might want to feel.

So it's almost like degrees of separation from where we are to where we have a full experience

of embodied pleasure if we struggle with shame or being shut down, which I guess I'm not the

only one. I think maybe other people do as well. So part of having no vocabulary is being numb

and dumb. It's like not having a lot of feeling, not having a lot of connection and not having the

knowledge of how to talk about it. So one step, baby step towards this direction is like Doug says, having a stream of consciousness

about what you sense and what you feel and then what you want. And so you can simply name things

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