This is the Terry Cole show and as you might have guessed I'm your host Terry Cole

For over two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist love and boundaries

expert and I'm also the founder of the Rail of Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

On this show I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology,

inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines in the fascinating

world of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. Well, hello and welcome to a very special edition of the you the most beautiful celebration tomorrow but what this episode is going to focus

on is New Year's so every year I start this process and those of you who have been in my crew for a while you know what we do every year this time a year.

We don't really do New Year's resolutions and I can get into that in a bit.

We actually make a decision based on this question. So here it is. What

crap are you leaving in 2019? This is a ritual that I've been doing for many years and I'm inviting you to do it and along with this episode

you'll be able to download your own little ritual kit with all the questions and the exact way to do it.

So let's start with why no to resolutions for me. I

feel like it's a setup to fail. That's just my own experience. I don't know why

but I feel like I over-promise to myself what I'm going to do and that I don't do it and that I feel terrible that I didn't do it.

There seems to be it's almost like

resolutions are only forward thinking. What am I going to do? But from a

therapeutic point of view, do you know what is more effective is to look back, is to

look back for evidence of what you've been doing, of what has been working and

what hasn't been working in your life.

So it isn't just about doing more and I feel like that's such a, we're in such a go go

go culture. It's like yes let me just do more. We don't need to be doing more.

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