Let's talk about negative cycles.

Ooh, okay.

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All right, so in previous episodes we've talked a lot about the world of a pursuer and the world of a withdrawal and other episodes.

Today we're going to put the two together and talk about how they dance and step on each other's toes and what they can do to get out of these negative feedback groups.

I got to feel it mean you can get into a couple of these dances with each other, Miss Pursueer.

That is so true.

As a person who thinks about it a lot, I think and like it makes me crazy, you know, it's like, okay, I know George is more of a withdraw.

So like all my moves, I still analyze them.

I still analyze like, should I call him?

Should I email in this like I emailed

you something then I was telling you today it's like don't worry I'm not expecting

anything for you to do anything about this I just want to show you you know like afraid as a pursuer who is aware of how easy it is to push

somebody away that I'll push you away in some way or what was it last time we were setting up or something and I said you know he said we'll meet at this time or so oh it was the morning one right we talked about that and'm like, George got back to me at 70,

I'm asking Derek because he's a withdrawal, so I'm like comparing like, okay, what am I

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