224 - Scared to Be Seen: Finding Authenticity Through Parts Work w/ Jesse Deal
Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
4.9 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 1 April 2026
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
The moment you finally see yourself is the moment you no longer fear being seen.
Jesse Deal is a trauma recovery coach, parts work practitioner, and host of the podcast Trauma Unbound. After a lifetime of playing it small, he walked away from the life he'd been surviving in and started building the one he was actually meant for. This is a conversation about the fear of being seen, finding authenticity through parts work, and what happens when you stop waiting to have it all together and just go.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️ Why Being Seen Feels Dangerous — Where the fear of being visible comes from and how to start dismantling the false story it's been telling you
▪️ Your Body as a Guide — How somatic awareness shows you what needs to change and points you toward a life that actually fits.
▪️ From Learned Helplessness to Hopefulness — How to start building the belief that the world can actually be safe and supportive.
▪️ What Parts Work Looks Like in Real Time — What it actually sounds like when someone checks in with a protector mid-conversation and comes out the other side more grounded.
▪️ When Authenticity Feels Unsafe — How learning your feelings were "too much" as a kid taught you that being yourself is what gets you hurt.
Jesse's Links🔗 Website.| YouTube | IG. | Apple Podcast | Spotify
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🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
▪️Ep 168 | The Fragmented Self: Parts Work & Dissociation w/ Jesse D.
▪️Ep 190 | The Purpose of Our Pain: IFS Therapy to Heal Complex Trauma w/ Tammy Sollenberger
▪️Ep 145 | The Journey to Emotional Authenticity w/ Kenny Weiss
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Authenticity is letting go of who we're supposed to be and embracing who we are. |
| 0:07.1 | My name is Andrea, and this is Adult Child. |
| 0:13.6 | What's you're holding on to? |
| 0:20.5 | Let's just let it all go. |
| 0:35.9 | Ahooy, my dear shit shows. |
| 0:38.5 | For any new listeners, my name is Andrea. |
| 0:40.8 | I am a total incomplete shit show, and I am the captain of this hot mess of a ship |
| 0:45.2 | where we talk about what the hell to do when you realize that your childhood |
| 0:48.5 | screwed you up more than you initially thought. |
| 0:52.1 | So I just realized right before I sat down to record this that |
| 0:56.1 | five years ago today, I released my very first podcast episode. I can't believe that it was |
| 1:03.6 | five years ago. Sitting on my floor, I had no idea what I was doing. I had no idea if anyone was going to listen. And here we are now five |
| 1:17.1 | years later. And I just want to thank each and every one of you for being a part of this |
| 1:25.5 | journey with me, especially y'all who have been here since the beginning. |
| 1:31.3 | And, you know, I hardly take the time to really sit with and acknowledge, like, all that I've |
| 1:37.9 | accomplished. And I'm pretty sure that every damn one of you listening right now can totally |
| 1:43.9 | relate to that. |
| 1:45.3 | So I just want to, you know, say out loud just how proud of myself I am, how proud of |
| 1:54.2 | myself I am for what I've built, for the impact that I've had, for the role that I played in so many people's healing journey. |
| 2:02.9 | I want to own all of the hard work that's gone into this. |
| 2:06.6 | I want to acknowledge all of the pain and healing I've experienced over the past five years. |
| 2:14.1 | And I just want to say, like, it has truly been an honor to be a part of your healing |
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