Hey guys, well before I get into today's topic, I want to give a review shout out to

Luna Sal, who left me a review on Apple Podcast Puerto Rico, and she said,

Trina is a soul saver. Last summer I went through a really nasty breakup. I was in a really

dark place and struggling to get over a 6-0 relationship, which in hindsight was full

of red flags from the get-go. Trina opened my eyes and helped me get through one of the

lowest points of my life. I'm so grateful for her advice. I learned to value myself, be

selective and not settle for less than what I deserve. I still listen to it as her nuggets

of wisdom are priceless. Thank you Trina, big hugs from Puerto Rico. You are so sweet,

I've actually been to Puerto Rico once I was dating a guy who played soccer there. Thank

you so much for this review. Those red flags are just always there, aren't they? But here's

the thing, you know, we learn from experience. We have to live through these types of situations

to really get it. Huge congratulations though for building yourself up again. I'm so proud

of you and happy that I could be of help. And what you said about not settling really ties

into today's topic. The topic of this episode is scared of starting over after a breakup.

One of the most common things I hear from people who are hesitating to leave a bad relationship

is that they don't want to star over. Even people in their 20s will say this, and if you're still

in your 20s, I have a little secret for you. You're actually just getting started in life.

You don't got to worry about all this yet, trust me. No matter how old you are though, 20s,

30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, what you need to realize is that staying in a bad relationship

or any relationship where you're not happy is not the answer. It just doesn't make sense to be

afraid to leave something that you don't even want to be in. It's like, okay, just stay in that

for the rest of your life then. Keep bickering, getting cheated on, feeling unheard,

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