223 - Love That Looks Like Rescue: Trauma Bonds & Outgrowing Relationships w/ Marina Triner
Adult Child
Andrea Ashley
4.9 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 25 March 2026
⏱️ 63 minutes
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Summary
When the person you're trying to save feels exactly like the parent you couldn't.
Marina Triner is a somatic coach and host of the Deep Within podcast who helps people move through deep-rooted patterns of stress, emotional disconnection, and shutdown through nervous system regulation and body-based healing. In today's episode, she shares how outgrowing her marriage allowed her to access deeper truths about her parents, her childhood, and deeply rooted patterns she hadn't seen before.
✨ What this episode explores:
▪️What Happens When You Heal and They Don't — Why outgrowing a relationship and the guilt of leaving can feel heavier than the pain of staying.
▪️The Relationships That Keep You From Seeing the Truth — How a partner can block you from from facing what's actually unresolved with your parents, your childhood, and yourself.
▪️Why You Can't Stop Trying to Save Them — How the fixer pattern was never about the other person; it was about the child inside you refusing to give up on saving your parent.
▪️The Shame of "I Should Be Further Along" — Why years of healing don't make you immune to old patterns, and why falling back in isn't proof you've failed.
▪️When Asking for Help Is the Breakthrough — How letting people see you fall apart can be the most radical thing you do for your healing.
🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love:
▪️ Ep 201 | Trauma-Bonded No More — My Journey Through Shame, Regression & Finding My Way Back
▪️ Ep 142 | Terry Real on Relational Trauma, Love Addiction and Shame
▪️ Ep 130 | Addicted to Fear & Chaos: The Adult Child Inner Drug Store w/ Dr. Scott Lyons
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You can't save someone who is not willing to participate in their own rescue. |
| 0:07.2 | My name is Andrea, and this is Adult Child. |
| 0:13.7 | Yeah, hey, now. |
| 0:17.0 | What's you holding on to? |
| 0:20.6 | Let's just let it all go |
| 0:22.0 | What's making you slow now |
| 0:24.7 | I'm just let it all go |
| 0:26.5 | Welcome back to an old child |
| 0:28.4 | Where we take a deep dive into the impact of growing up |
| 0:32.0 | In a dysfunctional family |
| 0:33.6 | Ahoy my dear shit shows |
| 0:36.9 | For any new listeners, my name is Andrea. |
| 0:39.5 | I am a total incomplete shit show. |
| 0:41.8 | I am the captain of this hot mess of a ship where we talk about what to do when you realize |
| 0:46.8 | your childhood screwed you up more than you thought. |
| 0:48.9 | The podcast where we talk about serious shit, but we don't take ourselves too seriously. |
| 0:55.8 | We curse here. You've been warned. I'm an acquired taste. You've been warned. So welcome aboard. So today, folks, |
| 1:01.6 | we are diving deep with returning guests, somatic coach Marina Triner. So it's been a few years |
| 1:07.1 | since Marina was last on the pod. And it's actually been a few years since her and I have |
| 1:11.6 | talked. And so we ended up exchanging DMs on Sunday. And we just decided, hey, like, let's do |
| 1:18.1 | an impromptu episode tomorrow. We didn't plan anything. We didn't talk about what it was going to be |
| 1:22.4 | about. And y'all, I had no idea what sort of a doozy of a conversation this was going to turn into. |
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