All right, we've talked a lot recently about being in your villain era, but how do you be in your villain era without being a...

I keep this podcast clean. I wish I didn't. I wish I... Sometimes I wish I didn't keep this podcast clean but I do it per the village mentality I like to do a show that you know if you have your grandma in the car if you have your children in the car you can

still listen to the show if you happen to know any good people they they can listen to

the show with you too so how do you be in your villain era without being a witch without

without being bossy? There's a word that kind of a synonym for what I'm going for.

How can we accomplish that?

Because as we have discussed in previous episodes,

one of them being 217, episode 217, I reintroduced the concept of being in your villain era.

Being in your villain era does not mean that you are doing objectively villainous things.

It just means that you are okay with being the villain in

other people's stories it means that you are okay with setting boundaries

even if people don't like it it means that you are okay with following your own path

and just shrugging if other people don't like your path. So listen to episode 217 if you missed that one. But now what the question that I'm getting is

how do we do that and still be a good person and not seem to be

seem to be aggressive and not seem to be

bossy or whatever because a lot of us are people-pleasers.

I am actually a pretty big

people-pleaser and so I just can't be that person that is out there

yelling at people and just you know girl bossing really hard in everyone's face I just can't do that now I

I do sometimes I will say the other day someone did something pretty

disrespectful to me and I yelled at her I got in her face

I told her that I will never accept that kind of disrespect again in the shower

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