220 - How to Deal with Difficult People with Psychotherapist Andrea Bonior

The Verywell Mind Podcast

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Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Education

5 • 703 Ratings

🗓️ 5 December 2022

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Andrea Bonior is a psychologist who spent fifteen years turning what she’d learned in the therapy office into a mental health column for The Washington Post called “Baggage Check.” She’s also the author of three books, including Detox Your Thoughts. She writes for Psychology Today and is the host of a new podcast called Baggage Check. Some of the things Andrea shares are how to deal with people who cancel plans at the last minute, what to do when someone always points out the negative, and how to respond to unsolicited advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Very Well Mind podcast. We've interviewed over 100 authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and others to help you learn strategies to care for your mental health.
0:22.9	This episode is hosted by psychotherapist and bestselling author Amy Morin. Now let's get into the episode.
0:50.5	Okay. Do you allow a difficult person to ruin your day sometimes? Do you let other people bring out the worst in you?
0:55.4	Do you spend a lot of time rehashing conversations you had with someone, wishing that you had handled things differently? If you answered yes to any of those questions, today's
1:00.7	episode is for you. No matter where you go in life or what you're doing, you're bound to deal
1:06.3	with difficult people. And if we're honest, sometimes it's us who are the difficult people. But it's easier to
1:13.5	notice when other people are being difficult. Maybe you have a wishy-washy friend who backs out
1:18.3	plans at the last minute, or a family member who seems to think that they know everything. Or maybe
1:24.5	you have a colleague who gives you tons of unhelpful advice.
1:32.5	Fortunately, though, there are strategies that can help you skillfully deal with all of these kinds of people.
1:34.0	And to help us with that today is Andrea Bonnier.
1:36.9	She's a psychologist and author of a really good book called Detox Your Thoughts.
1:41.9	She's been on the show before.
1:43.6	To hear her talk about how to handle negative
1:45.5	thoughts, go back and listen to episode number 34. She's also the host of a new podcast called
1:51.7	Baggage Check. Some of the things she talks about today are how to speak up to difficult people,
1:57.8	how to navigate tough conversations, and how to manage your emotional responses to others.
2:03.7	Make sure to stick around until the end of the episode for the therapist's take.
2:07.7	It's the part of the show where I'll give you my take on Andrea Strategies and show you
2:11.7	how you can start applying them to your own life. So here's Andrea Bonnier on how to deal with
2:17.4	difficult people. Andrea Bonier, welcome to
2:20.2	the Very Well Mind podcast. Thanks so much for having me. Maybe I should say welcome back because you
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