219 - Friday Fix: How to Ask for Help

The Verywell Mind Podcast

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Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Mental Health, Education

5 • 703 Ratings

🗓️ 2 December 2022

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Whether you want an extra hand moving furniture or you need professional help for depression, asking for help can be tough. It can feel scary too. We don’t want people to reject us, judge us, or feel more powerful than us. But the sooner we ask for help and make our needs known, the sooner we can get some relief. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to make asking for help feel a little less uncomfortable. With each successful request, you might build the courage to ask for help again. And with a little help from those around you, life often becomes much more manageable and enjoyable. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Very Well Mind podcast. We've interviewed over 100 authors, experts, entrepreneurs, athletes, musicians, and others to help you learn strategies to care for your mental health.
0:22.9	This episode is hosted by psychotherapist and bestselling author Amy Morin. Now let's get into the episode.
0:52.4	Okay. You're listening to the Friday fix. Every Friday, I share a quick mental strength strategy that can help fix the thoughts, feelings, and actions that can hold you back in life.
0:55.3	It's really hard to ask for help sometimes.
1:01.2	That's true whether you need professional help for depression or you just need a ride to the airport.
1:07.9	I did a quick Instagram survey and found that 85% of you agreed that you have trouble asking for help.
1:11.8	So if you struggle with this, trust that you're not alone.
1:18.3	But speaking of alone, we're not meant to survive all alone. We get along in life so much better when we ask other people for help, and then when we help them with things too. We accomplish
1:23.7	more when we cooperate, but productivity isn't the only reason that we should ask other
1:28.1	people for help. Other people often have wisdom, skills, and resources that can benefit us.
1:35.0	And those things are often just there for the taking if we ask. Life gets easier when we tell people
1:40.7	what we need and when we're open to helping when they tell us what they need.
1:45.4	I can't tell you how many people come into my therapy office saying how difficult it was for
1:49.9	them to make that initial phone call to ask for help. Most of them are really scared to admit that
1:55.1	they needed help in the first place and then they were scared to make the phone call and then even
1:59.6	more scared to come to the first
2:00.8	appointment. But once they did, they realized it wasn't so bad. I've never had anybody say,
2:05.3	gee, I wish I would have waited longer to get help. And often our treatment goals involve
2:10.3	asking other people for help too. A lot of unnecessary stress in life comes from our unwillingness
2:16.8	to ask somebody to help and we try to do
2:19.0	everything on our own. Like asking another parent, though, to just pick your kids up from soccer
2:24.1	practice or asking a family member for help picking out a new laptop. Could save you tons of time
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