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Dating Intentionally

218. Being The Chooser VS Wanting To Be Chosen (How To Find Balance)

Dating Intentionally

Talia Koren

Relationships, Society & Culture, Education, Self-improvement

4.7596 Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, I break down why we crave being chosen in dating and how shifting into being the chooser transforms your confidence, clarity, and relationships. I unpack the media messages, attachment patterns, and personal experiences that keep us chasing validation, and I walk you through how to date from a place of self-worth, clarity, and mutual choosing. At the end, I dive into a dating dilemma about catching feelings for someone who isn’t ready to date.

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0:00.0

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0:05.2

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0:10.2

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0:14.4

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0:19.6

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0:21.4

shopping, or cooking. What's not to love? Personally, I'm loving their Tex-Mex chicken green bowl.

0:26.9

I'm on a fiber kick. So that is great to enjoy after a long day of interviews and recording.

0:32.5

And I'm so excited to try their truffle butter, chicken, and mushroom risotto, which, as someone

0:37.3

who used to work in the food space

0:38.7

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0:56.1

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1:01.4

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1:06.0

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1:19.1

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1:25.3

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1:37.3

Instead of trying to be chosen, start being the chooser. Have you heard this advice before?

1:43.3

Maybe on this podcast. Today we're diving into why we're so hooked on being chosen in relationships,

1:45.1

why it makes dating so hard,

1:50.0

and how to shift into being the chooser so you can actually get into an amazing relationship with a great match. Welcome back to dating intentionally. I'm Talia. I'm sharing no nonsense

1:54.8

advice for navigating dating and relationships with confidence and ease, whether you've been dating

1:59.3

for a while or you're just starting out.

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