Today we're going to talk about fantasies.

Last few episodes we spent a lot of time,

heavy conversations around problems and shame.

Today we're going to lighten the mood

and get into the world of fantasy.

Hey, you're listening to 4-play radio for couples and sex therapy, and I'm

Lori Watson, your sex therapist.

And I'm George Fowler, your marriage therapist.

We want to take a wide lens on sexuality

and talking with you about what we've learned as experts

in the field on how you bring your body, your mind, and your brain to the sexual experience.

We want to expand people's perspective of just talking about sex, but it's not something

to be avoided, it's actually something to embrace and to lean into

with an openness to be changed by what you hear.

So exciting today that we have a new sponsor, UberLube.com, which is a great lubricant, and I want you all to remember that

lubricants are not just for the act. They're especially important during

play. So I guess the first thing I'm thinking about with fantasies is assessing does this

fantasy either partner's fantasy is it something that strengthens their emotional bond, their connection, or is it something that creates more distance?

I'm always trying to keep it simple.

Does it increase the levels of engagement between the couple or does it actually decrease the levels of engagement?

Is this fantasy a bridge that brings them closer together or does it become a block that actually

leads to further separation.

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