213: What if they were murdered trying to protect you?
This Is Actually Happening
Wondery
4.6 • 9.9K Ratings
🗓️ 23 November 2021
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
“It just got too hurtful to think of him in the ground and me still alive…I couldn’t understand the meaning in it.”
Today’s episode featured Hayley Ross. If you’d like to reach out to Hayley you can contact her at [email protected].
Producers: Whit Missildine, Andrew Waits
Episode Summary: Growing up in an abusive household, a woman struggles to find meaning in her life, when one night, a sudden, unexpected, violent attack changes her life forever.
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Content/Trigger Warnings: domestic violence, physical abuse, suicidal ideation, suicide attempt, sexual assault, graphic violence, graphic bodily injury, murder, explicit language
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.2 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode |
| 0:07.6 | and for more information about support services. |
| 0:17.2 | Whenever your mind can't deal with such a traumatic event, it just kind of shuts down. |
| 0:23.7 | It just got too hurtful to think of him in the ground and me still alive. |
| 0:30.8 | I couldn't understand the meaning in it. |
| 0:44.4 | From Wondry, I'm Whit Missaldine. |
| 0:46.7 | You are listening to this is actually happening. |
| 0:57.4 | Episode 213. |
| 1:00.8 | What if they were murdered trying to protect you? |
| 1:10.0 | Hey, prime members, you can listen to this is actually happening. |
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| 1:43.8 | Go listen to Red-handed right now on Amazon Music or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 1:56.8 | I was born in 1968. I was thrown into a typical middle class family at that time. |
| 2:18.1 | One sister who was 21 months older than me. We grew up mostly on a block that was old people. |
| 2:29.8 | We didn't really have a lot of kids around to play with so we had to rely on each other for entertainment. |
| 2:39.1 | My dad was a welder, you know, being at work during the day. My mom staying at home with this. |
| 2:44.5 | Both of my parents had mean tempers, heavy hands. I relied heavily on emotional support from my sister. |
| 2:56.4 | I remember a big fight that my parents had and we hid in the closet and I can remember my mom yelling at us to pack our things we were leaving. |
| 3:08.1 | That was the first fight that I remember my dad actually slapping my mom. |
| 3:14.0 | You know, it seemed like my dad after that became kind of the bad guy. |
| 3:19.6 | This is the person who is supposed to love and care for me and watch over me and I'm afraid of him. |
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