213 SelfWork: Continuing The Convo About Your Struggles in Therapy
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 8 January 2021
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Thank you to all of you who contacted me these past two or three weeks! This week’s episode is a conversation – not literally - but I’ve heard from so many of you about the last couple of SelfWork podcasts, I wanted to respond. You sent me your stories of your own struggles with a therapist, especially about termination and boundaries; I was very moved to address the core issues of what went wrong and discuss them in more detail.
The listener email is actually two other responses I received about people pleasing - and how that trait had affected therapy. I was reminded that there was even more to it than Episode 212 had covered!
Important Links:
SelfWork Episode 210 on Leaving or Staying In Therapy
SelfWork Episode 212 on People Pleasing
Article by Dr. Clifford Lazarus in Psychology Today on common mistakes
WebMD Link to serotonin syndrome
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical psychologist |
| 0:34.4 | out of Fayetteville, Arkansas and I started this podcast over four years ago to |
| 0:39.6 | extend the walls of my practice to those of you who might already be in therapy very |
| 0:44.2 | interested in psychological or emotional issues and on your own journey to those of |
| 0:49.0 | you who might just have been diagnosed and you've really got a lot of questions or you're having a relationship |
| 0:54.6 | issue that you can't seem to find the answer to. |
| 0:57.7 | But also to a third group of you who might say to friends I'd never darken the door of a therapist. I don't get it. |
| 1:04.0 | But you're interested enough to tune into self-work and at least listen to this psychologist. |
| 1:10.0 | Thanks to all of you for being here and wow I heard from so many of you these past two weeks and I love it. |
| 1:17.5 | So this week's podcast is really kind of a conversation, not literally, but I heard from a lot of you about the |
| 1:24.4 | podcast on leaving therapy as well as the podcast on people pleasing. I always |
| 1:29.9 | invite you to email me when you have ideas or questions or concerns. But I received |
| 1:34.8 | more than the usual number of emails, so I thought I'd share some of them with you to |
| 1:39.1 | point out even more specifically what can happen first when a therapeutic relationship goes awry or |
| 1:45.1 | there's an issue that needs to be addressed. I'll read your emails, take what I |
| 1:48.7 | think is the court issue, and discuss it in more detail. And then our listener email is from two people who reached out to me one via email |
| 1:56.4 | and the other through Instagram. Both were responding to again the podcast on People Pleasing. |
| 2:02.1 | They are both People pleasers. One was |
| 2:04.3 | trying to change and it came out rudely, but another who reminded me quite rightly |
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