212: My Husband Treats Me Like a Roommate

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 12 December 2023

⏱️ 72 minutes

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When your husband treats you like a roommate, it feels cold and lonely. You didn’t get married to have a roommate! You got married to enjoy each other’s company, to enjoy passion, and if you’re anything like me, to feel desired. So getting the roommate treatment is a bait-and-switch that can make you feel rejected and abandoned as a wife. It’s also embarrassing. At least it was for me, because I felt like it was proof that I wasn’t desirable, which I wasn’t, and that our marriage was falling apart, which it was. So I had lots of problems and no idea where to start because I had already tried the oft-repeated advice to share my deep concerns about his lack of affection, and let me tell you: That. Did. Not. Work. It did not make him pull me in for a kiss and whisk me away to the bedroom, which is what I secretly wanted. That was painful. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about what to do when your husband treats you like a roommate.

Plus, my guest Deena’s marriage felt cold and distant, like roommates who were either fighting or having a cold war most of the time. The threat of divorce was hanging over them. Then Deena decided to do a few things differently and instead of roommates she says they feel like soulmates. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

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0:00.0	Today on the Empowered Wife podcast.
0:02.0	There was struggling, rearing two children and maintaining a home.
0:06.0	I just felt like I was doing too much, I felt tired, I didn't feel appreciated.
0:11.0	So what do you do naturally naturally you start complaining and I would how else was he
0:16.5	supposed to know right? In the bad old days how was he supposed to know if I don't tell him? So how that's exactly right? Yeah. And tell him exactly what's wrong with him and what he needs to change and even though I was saying like well, like 98% you're a good guy.
0:35.0	But if you just work on those 2%, you would be just perfect, you know?
0:39.0	And what he heard is 2% good and 98% bad.
0:50.0	Welcome to the Empowered Wife podcast.
0:52.2	It's all about fixing your relationship without your man's conscious efforts that you feel desired, taken care of, and special.
1:01.2	Even if your relationship feels hopeless.
1:03.4	I'm Laura Doyle and today we're talking about what to do
1:06.6	when your husband treats you like a roommate.
1:09.8	My guest, Dina's marriage felt cold and distant like roommates who were either fighting or having a cold war most of the time.
1:18.0	The threat of divorce was hanging over them and then Dina decided to do a few things differently and instead of roommates she says
1:26.2	they feel like soulmates she's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too but first let's talk about what to do when your husband
1:34.5	treats you like a roommate because that feels cold and lonely. You didn't
1:38.7	get married to just have a roommate. You got married to enjoy each other's company and to enjoy passion and if
1:46.6	you're anything like me to feel desired. That's so important so getting the
1:52.2	roommate treatment is like a bait and switch and that can make you
1:56.7	feel rejected and even abandoned as a wife. It's also embarrassing. I mean it was for me because I felt like it was proof that I wasn't
2:09.2	desirable, which I wasn't, and that our marriage was falling apart which it was. So I had lots of problems
2:19.1	and no idea where to start because I had already tried the oft repeated advice to share my deep
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