212 // How to Put Yourself First

The Mindful Kind

Rachael Kable

Mindfulness, Mindful, Health & Fitness, Self-help, Inspiration

4.6 • 636 Ratings

🗓️ 23 January 2020

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Summary

Hello and welcome to episode 212 of The Mindful Kind podcast.

In this episode, I've answered a lovely listener's question about how to be less of a people-pleaser and start prioritising self-care.

Here are three reasons why it's important to prioritise self-care:

It can be important for maintaining good mental health
It can teach people around you to engage in self-care, too
It can boost your self-worth and self-esteem

And here are three tips for putting yourself first:

Clearly know what you want and need so you can communicate it
Offer to help when you're actually able
Be prepared for some resistance when you stop people-pleasing (at least at first!)

Thank you so much for listening and I hope you have a wonderful week, Mindful Kind.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the Mindful Kind podcast.
0:06.4	I'm your host, Rachel Cable, author of the Mindfulkind book, Mindfulness Teacher and blogger at
0:12.0	Rachelcable.com.
0:13.8	Each week, this podcast will bring meaningful tips, tools and strategies so you can manage stress
0:19.2	and live more mindfully in the modern world.
0:24.4	Hello and welcome to episode 212 of the Mindful Kind podcast.
0:30.0	In this episode, I'm excited to share why it's important to put yourself first and how to
0:35.1	actually do that.
0:36.7	This episode was inspired by one of my wonderful
0:39.1	listeners who reached out to me on Instagram and explained that sometimes she finds it difficult
0:45.0	to prioritize herself and her needs, tending to put other people first. And I get it. For most of my life,
0:53.2	I've been the ultimate people pleaser. I used to work
0:56.4	incredibly hard to make sure everyone was happy, even when it meant sacrificing my own happiness
1:02.0	and sometimes even my own mental health. Priority number one was hardly ever me, and over time
1:08.3	that led to me feeling more and more resentful because I let other people
1:12.7	take advantage of my tendency to comply and lack of assertiveness and boundaries. Now don't get me wrong,
1:20.5	I still love helping. I still go out of my way to be of service to people and to offer support
1:26.8	even when I don't really need to. But rather than
1:29.9	always doing those things out of obligation and feeling like I have to help or I should help,
1:35.7	I now try to help from a place of choice. I choose who I help and how much I help and I actually
1:41.9	consider my own needs and wants too.
1:45.1	And it makes a big difference for me because rather than feeling like I'm being taken advantage
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