If you don't make the choices in your own life, then someone else is going to end up making them for you.

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Welcome back to the Court of the Day Show. I'm your host, Sean Crox and it's Sean Crox and dot com.

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We've got James Alltoucher in the house. You've probably heard of him. He's the host of the James Alltoucher show a fantastic podcast on iTunes.

And today he's talking about the steps he took to make a big time come back after he lost everything and how you can use these steps in your everyday life as well. Here's James.

Oh my gosh, this has been such a great day for so many reasons, but first I just want you to know on the last speaker and after me is the ballet.

So let's give it up for all the speakers all day long. What a great, great group. I've learned so much from them.

So a few weeks ago, I think I made a huge mistake, which is kind of normal for me, but I didn't know it was going to be a mistake.

I want to always, I'm like one of those fathers who likes to brag to his 12 year old daughter.

So I let my 12 year old daughter Rita Bulk, I wrote, which was a big mistake because then she comes to me a few days later.

She's a quick reader. I'm proud of her. I'm bragging about her now. So she comes to me a few days later and she says, Daddy, I hated this book.

And I'm like, Molly, why did you hate this book? It's my favorite thing I've ever written in my entire life.

And she said, throughout the entire book, you're always crying, you're going to kill yourself and you're crying on the floor. What's wrong with you?

And I said, you know, because I want to be a good example to my children. I said, well, honey, I wanted to tell the truth.

And at that time, I was feeling that, that down and out, that low. And in particular, she was referring, well, first she said after I said that, she said,

but Daddy, that's really mean. And I thought about it. And I'm glad she said that actually because at the time that she was referring to was a really, for me, difficult time.

I had built and sold a business I had been proud of. And literally in one summer, I was like a drunken rock star on steroids.

Like I went from $15 million in the bank to $46 in my ATM machine. Like I had nothing left. I was getting my house was being lost.

I was losing my marriage, losing my family. I was so ashamed. I couldn't talk to any friends. So I lost all my friends.

I even couldn't deal with my parents. I couldn't deal with anything. I was depressed. And I really thought it would be better for my children,

two little girls at the time, for my children to have a $4 million life insurance policy than to have a father.

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