210: What if you didn't know where they were taking you?
This Is Actually Happening
Wondery
4.6 • 9.9K Ratings
🗓️ 2 November 2021
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
“I kept thinking there’s no way that God is going to let this happen to me…What could I have done in my life to deserve what’s going on right now.”
Today’s episode features Jessie Bains. If you’d like to contact her, you can reach out at [email protected].
Producers: Whit Missildine
Episode Summary: A woman growing up in a sheltered life with conservative parents is taken from her driveway one night and led into a darkness she never could have fathomed.
Social Media: Instagram: @actuallyhappening
Website: www.thisisactuallyhappening.com
Content/Trigger Warnings: kidnapping, rape, violent sexual assault, graphic violence, graphic sexual imagery, explicit language
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Intro Music: "Illabye" – Tipper
Music Bed: Ambient Themes by Nigel Coutinho
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | This is actually happening features real experiences that often include traumatic events. |
| 0:04.2 | Please consult the show notes for specific content warnings on each episode |
| 0:07.6 | and for more information about support services. |
| 0:16.4 | Before we begin today's episode, I need to address something that happened last week. |
| 0:20.4 | On the show's Instagram page, people often share their feedback, |
| 0:23.3 | which is generally supportive and well-intentioned. |
| 0:25.8 | But like anywhere else on social media, |
| 0:27.5 | this kind of form also invites trolls, bullies, and straight up false and misinformed comments. |
| 0:32.5 | This is expected. |
| 0:34.1 | But some of the comments that came through on last week's episode were deeply upsetting |
| 0:37.9 | for both me and for the storyteller |
| 0:39.9 | and have caused me to rethink what kind of spaces I want to participate in |
| 0:43.6 | and more importantly, what kind of responsibility I have in co-creating these online spaces. |
| 0:49.2 | Some of the comments were just standard disagreement, skepticism, and negative opinions, |
| 0:53.4 | which are all welcome. |
| 0:54.6 | But other comments were just completely unfounded, vicious attacks, |
| 0:58.2 | with wild speculation or terrible armchair medical advice from people with no expertise. |
| 1:03.8 | But the final straw for me was when a listener hunted down and found the storyteller online |
| 1:08.4 | and then outed her on social media, |
| 1:10.3 | even though the storyteller expressly requested to remain anonymous as I had made clear in the episode. |
| 1:16.2 | All content creators struggle with how to handle hateful intentions online. |
| 1:20.0 | How do we provide a space for dialogue without fostering a platform for bullying |
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