Who put a quarter in you?

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Mike Mann and you're listening to no stupid questions.

Today on the show, how accurately do we see ourselves?

When you ask people, are you an average driver?

Oh my gosh, everyone's a great driver. Mike, we have an email from a listener named Haji, and I'm going to read it to you.

Okay.

It begins, I found the ongoing discussions about the Big Five personality series, fascinating.

Oh nice. I mean we went through each of the Big Five personality traits in a series recently.

And apparently Haji was one of the, I think we had 50,000 listeners take the survey, so Haji says,

after taking the survey, I couldn't help but wonder how others might rate me if asked and vice versa what factors lead to the

variations between an individual's self-perception and how they're perceived by their family,

colleagues, or friends. Terrific question and something I have been thinking about,

I think since my very first day of graduate school.

I love this because I think we lie to ourselves all the time

probably not on purpose, but I often wonder like the way I perceive myself I'm

sure is massively different than how other people perceive me.

Be specific.

I just think it's probably true that family and close friends are both more accurate

in their perception of us, but maybe also more judgey, not because they're judgmental but because they have seen a broader

perspective of our personality hmm so they'd be more critical you think yeah but critical

in an observant way not necessarily critical is in a negative way, right?

...