205 SelfWork: How to Build Your Own Self-Confidence
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 20 November 2020
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
A few weeks ago, a patient looked at me and said, “I realized that what I needed - I’d had all along. It’s like the ruby red slippers. You simply have to know their power and your own power.”
I haven’t been able to get that notion out of my head since that session. We all have the capacity to learn, to understand, to see and to have confidence in ourselves - but we can sabotage and discount our strengths, values, talents, and gut feelings. In this episode, I decided to trust my own red slippers in this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, and allow my own mind and heart to create a list of ten things that can build self-confidence - and with humility I bring it to you.
This is Movember – the month where men’s issues, specifically in the way so many disregard their medical and mental health, are highlighted by men growing mustaches – in a light-hearted but very sincere attempt to throw light on men. Thus the listener email is from a man who writes that he’s begun having symptoms of anxiety and panic at a time when he and his wife are having troubles and she wants a separation.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work |
| 0:29.6 | Welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical |
| 0:34.0 | psychologist and I live in Fayetteville, Arkansas. I started self-work about four years |
| 0:38.6 | ago to try to reach those of you who might be very comfortable with emotional, psychological issues, maybe you're in therapy. |
| 0:45.0 | To those of you who just been diagnosed with something and you're really looking for answers, |
| 0:50.0 | but also to the third group, those of you who might never darken the door of a therapist |
| 0:55.1 | or that's what you've told yourself or even others. |
| 0:58.0 | But you're just curious enough to listen |
| 1:00.2 | to something like self-work. |
| 1:01.5 | So welcome to all of you. I learned so much from the people I see. |
| 1:06.5 | And a few weeks ago a patient looked at me and said, |
| 1:09.5 | I realized that what I'd needed I'd had all along. It's like the Ruby Red |
| 1:14.8 | slippers. You simply have to know their power and your own power. I haven't been |
| 1:20.4 | able to get that notion out of my head since our session. |
| 1:24.2 | We all have the capacity to learn, to understand, to see, and to have confidence in ourselves. |
| 1:29.9 | But we're sabotaging ourselves from that learning or understanding. |
| 1:33.7 | Perhaps like my patient, you have something within you, an answer, |
| 1:37.7 | an understanding, a gut feeling, but that you're struggling to access that. |
| 1:42.4 | And it keeps you from believing in your own |
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