205 // How to Move Forward from a Break-Up

The Mindful Kind

Rachael Kable

Mindfulness, Mindful, Health & Fitness, Self-help, Inspiration

4.6 • 636 Ratings

🗓️ 5 December 2019

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

Hello and welcome to episode 205 of The Mindful Kind podcast.

In this episode, I've answered a listener's question about how to move forward from a break-up (without destroying the chance to develop a friendship) and how comparison can interfere with moving on.

The two powerful tips for moving forward gracefully include:

Tip 1: Focus on the values that are important to you (and pause before you react!)

Tip 2: Do things that bring joy and purpose into your life (and also take time to be self-compassionate with vulnerable emotions)

You can get your copy of the Self-Compassion Meditation Album here: https://www.rachaelkable.com/selfcompassion-album

And don't forget to check out episode 44 of The Mindful Kind for self-care tips to help you get through a break-up and episode 45 to help you deal with comparison.

Thank you so much for listening and I hope you have a wonderful week, Mindful Kind.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the Mindfulkind podcast.
0:06.4	I'm your host, Rachel Cable, author of the Mindfulkind book, Mindfulness Teacher and blogger at
0:12.0	Rachelcable.com.
0:13.8	Each week, this podcast will bring meaningful tips, tools and strategies so you can manage stress
0:19.2	and live more mindfully in the modern world.
0:24.8	Hello and welcome to episode 205 of the Mindful Kind podcast. This episode was inspired by one of
0:31.7	my wonderful listeners who wrote to me a few weeks ago about how she was struggling to cope with
0:36.9	a recent breakup, even though she wanted to develop a friendship weeks ago about how she was struggling to cope with a recent breakup. Even though
0:39.0	she wanted to develop a friendship with her ex-partner, she felt like she kept focusing on his
0:44.7	flaws and faults and comparing him to previous relationships. Even though she was angry with him,
0:51.2	she knew he was still a good guy and she didn't want to make the breakup
0:54.7	worse than it needed to be. Now I've talked a little bit about breakups, sadness and
1:00.5	mindfulness before on episode 44 of the Mindful Kind podcast. So feel free to go and check that out
1:06.8	to hear about simple mindfulness practices you can use to cope with sadness, self-care ideas,
1:13.0	and a little bit of reassurance that even though you might be struggling right now, things will
1:17.7	get better. I thought I would add to that episode and share some new ideas for coping with a
1:23.0	breakup gracefully while also looking after yourself. Just before I dive into it, I thought I'd talk a little
1:29.3	bit about comparison because it is something that can flare up in a number of ways during a breakup,
1:35.1	and I've definitely experienced it numerous times throughout my own life and relationships.
1:41.3	As my wonderful listener mentioned, she felt compelled to compare her recent ex-partner
1:46.3	to her other ex-partners and their mistakes because it made it easier to feel angry with him
1:52.2	rather than to feel her own pain. But she knew it was negatively impacting their potential
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