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Counselling Tutor

204 – What is Ambiguous Loss

Counselling Tutor

Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes

Education, Courses

4.6 β€’ 636 Ratings

πŸ—“οΈ 23 October 2021

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Barriers in Communication - Applying Theory to Self In Episode 204 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly return with three new topics of discussion: In today's 'Counselling Foundations' we look at barriers in communication. Then in 'Focus on Self', Rory and Ken discuss applying theories to self. And finally in 'Practice Matters', Rory and Chloe Swinton discuss what is ambiguous loss. Barriers in Communication [starts at 1:40 mins] Counselling is all about communication, but sometimes there are certain things that can get in the way such as simply not listening or not knowing how to respond. In this section, Rory and Ken take us through the different types of barriers in communication, and how they're caused: External barriers such as environmental disruption e.g. roadworks, background noise. Internal barriers such as hearing difficulties - thinking about whether your client knows what you're saying, or if they are able to lip-read. Cultural barriers, class barriers, barriers in terms of technology. Is there a topic you find difficult to discuss or something that makes you uncomfortable? How the use of jargon and abbreviations can leave a member of the conversation feeling lost or misunderstood. Barriers can come from both the speaker and the listener - be aware of this and recognise when a barrier occurs and be sure to find a way to deal with it. Applying Theory to Self [starts at 26:47 mins] Knowing certain theories is incredibly important as a counsellor, but it's even more important to be able to apply these theories. This week, Rory and Ken share how applying these theories to yourself can solidify your understanding: Allows you to have a better understanding of yourself. Gives opportunity for personal development and growth. By helping yourself, you can help others - developing empathy. How it can be the final step in helping you to fully understand the theory. What is Ambiguous Loss: An Introduction for Counsellors [starts at 43:39 mins] This week Rory spoke with Chloe Swinton about what is ambiguous loss, something that everybody experiences at some point in their life, but not many people are aware of. In this discussion, the main points explored include: The two types of ambiguous loss: Psychological absence with physical presence e.g. dementia. Physical absence with psychological presence e.g. missing people, divorce. Ambiguous loss is stressful loss. Can be caused by a lack of closure. Can appear when you have been prevented from grieving, or saying goodbye. Caused by external issues. People dealing with ambiguous loss may isolate themselves, not accept their loss, etc. Links and Resources Advanced Certificate in Counselling Supervision Basic Counselling Skills: A Student Guide Counsellor CPD Counselling Study Resource Counselling Theory in Practice: A Student Guide Counselling Tutor Shop Facebook group Website Online and Telephone Counselling: A Practitioner's Guide Online and Telephone Counselling Course

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Counseling Tutor podcast, the must listen to podcast for students of counseling and psychotherapy.

0:10.6

Here are your hosts, Rory Lee's Oaks and Ken Kelly.

0:16.0

Hi, I'm Rory. I'm with me as always is Ken. How are you today, Ken?

0:19.9

I am well, I'm delighted and humbled

0:22.0

to be here as we look at our podcast statistics and see that we are way over the hump of over 2 million

0:29.1

downloads. So grateful to you, our listener and hopefully you'll be rewarded for checking in today

0:34.5

with the counselling tutor podcast episode 20 204 we have three topics that we've

0:39.9

specially prepared for you today starting off with counseling foundations where we visit the very

0:46.1

building blocks of counseling and today we're going to be looking at barriers in communication

0:51.4

what are the things that can come between us and a client in our practice? Then

0:56.7

focus on self, where we recognise that we are the heart of our practice as practitioners. We look at

1:03.2

applying the theory that we might learn or pick up through our arc of training, through our

1:08.1

continuous professional development, and how that theory

1:11.1

applies to ourself. And then in our final section for this episode, practice matters, where we

1:18.4

dip our toe into practice and look at what may present in our therapy room. Rory met up with

1:24.4

Chloe Swinton to speak about a really interesting topic. I love this lecture,

1:28.8

Rory. It's a lecture on ambiguous loss. So you want to be sticking around for that.

1:34.4

Really, really interesting stuff. But starting us off, looking at those counselling foundations,

1:40.2

we look at the barriers to communication.

1:47.4

And this is an important part.

1:50.5

I think with something you study when you're a student and you're on a course,

1:53.6

you're going to do a module on barriers to communications.

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