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Counselling Tutor

203 – Counselling Clients with Sex Addiction

Counselling Tutor

Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes

Education, Courses

4.6636 Ratings

🗓️ 16 October 2021

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

Importance of Ethics in Counselling - Knowing your Attachment Style In Episode 203 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Rory Lees-Oakes and Ken Kelly discuss this week's three segments: 'Counselling Foundations' - where we look at why ethics are important. 'Focus on Self' - where we look at knowing your attachment style. And finally in today's 'Practice Matters', Rory speaks with Karen Lawrence about counselling clients with sex addiction. Importance of Ethics in Counselling [starts at 1:33 mins] The very basics of ethics can be boiled down to doing the right thing, but during this section, Rory and Ken will discuss in greater depth the importance of having an ethical framework. The key topics discussed include: Making sure everything you do is in service of the client. Outlining your boundaries. Recognising that ethics exist to mitigate and monitor risk. Ethics are an important method of standardisation. Consider the possibility of making your ethics known to the client. Ensure you're familiar with the correct ethical conduct. Importance of Ethics in Counselling [starts at 1:33 mins] The very basics of ethics can be boiled down to doing the right thing, but during this section, Rory and Ken will discuss in greater depth the importance of having an ethical framework. The key topics discussed include: Making sure everything you do is in service of the client. Outlining your boundaries. Recognising that ethics exist to mitigate and monitor risk. Ethics are an important method of standardisation. Consider the possibility of making your ethics known to the client. Ensure you're familiar with the correct ethical conduct. Knowing Your Attachment Style [starts at 16:40 mins] Attachment styles are the different ways in which we as individuals trust others. In today's podcast, Rory and Ken discuss the different attachment styles and the importance of being aware of your own attachment style. The key points include: Recognising that it's a subconscious process. The importance of knowing your own attachment style - the process being 'seen' may take away some of its power. The 5 different attachment styles and what they mean for the individual's relationships with others. Links to the Coventry Grid: The Coventry ASD vs Attachment Problems Grid Modification of the Coventry Grid Interview to include the Pathological Demand Avoidant profile Counselling Clients with Sex Addiction [starts at 30:58 mins] Rory speaks with Karen Lawrence who shares her knowledge on recognising those with a sex/pornography addiction and the key aspects of supporting these clients in therapy: Using the 4 criteria of addiction to make an assessment on your client. Shame silences people - be mindful of your client and use appropriate questions to progress the conversation. Remember that the client can only go as far as the counsellor is willing to go. Sex and pornography addiction can also isolate people and disrupt their everyday lives, not just alcohol or drug addictions. Links and Resources Advanced Certificate in Counselling Supervision Basic Counselling Skills: A Student Guide Counsellor CPD Counselling Study Resource Counselling Theory in Practice: A Student Guide Counselling Tutor Shop Facebook group Website Online and Telephone Counselling: A Practitioner's Guide Online and Telephone Counselling Course The Coventry ASD vs Attachment Problems Grid Modification of the Coventry Grid Interview to include the Pathological Demand Avoidant profile

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Counseling Tutor podcast, the must listen to podcast for students of counselling and psychotherapy.

0:10.6

Here are your hosts, Rory Lise Oakes and Ken Kelly.

0:15.7

Hi, I'm Rory and with me as always is Ken. How are you today, Ken?

0:19.8

I am well. Thank you for asking Rory. I'm delighted to be here.

0:23.6

And I'm absolutely chuffed as anything that you've joined us for the Counseling Tutor podcast.

0:29.3

This is episode 203. And today we're going to be looking at three different topics in three different sections.

0:36.2

Starting off with our counseling foundations,

0:38.8

where we're going to be exploring why ethics are important. Then we're going to move on to focus on

0:45.1

self, where we recognize that you, as the practitioner, you are the heart of your practice

0:50.1

and focus on self so, so important. And we're going to be talking about knowing your own

0:55.4

attachment style, what that looks like, why that's important. And we're closing episode 203 by

1:02.0

dipping into practice matters. That's where we look at what we may come across in the day

1:07.1

to day running of a counselling practice. And today we have a guest lecturer. That's

1:11.8

Karen Lawrence, who's going to be speaking about sex addiction. Met up with Rory, really interesting

1:18.4

topic. Can walk into your counselling practice at any time. But let's kick off. We're talking

1:24.3

in our counselling foundations about the importance of ethics within a counselling

1:31.6

practice. Why are they important? Well, I mean, I think that's a really good question,

1:37.7

isn't it? And I think they're important because as practitioners, and I think in our own lives, really, we have to think about doing

1:46.1

the right thing.

1:47.9

And ethics help us and guide us into doing the right thing.

1:52.3

And there's different forms of ethics, for those of you are interested in being scholarly,

1:57.5

you can look at different forms of ethics.

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