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ADHD reWired

204 | Matt Beardsley - Cracking the Code of You

ADHD reWired

Eric Tivers, LCSW, ADHD-CCSP

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4.7919 Ratings

🗓️ 6 February 2018

⏱️ 107 minutes

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Summary

On this episode, Matt Beardsley joins me in my office. First off, thanks to Matt for giving me the motivation to clean my office! Matt is a husband, father, and friend. In his professional life, he works in technology as a site reliability engineer. Since his diagnosis in April of 2017, Matt has been able to go on a deeper journey of self-discovery, finding along the way, himself and the community he cherishes. In this conversation, you will hear Matt’s story. He talks about his academics and emotions as a youth. He explains his love for math and why he sees math as a place for creativity. When Matt was evaluated for ADHD, he was nervous that he would not be diagnosed because, in his research, it seemed to answer so many questions. You will also hear Matt describe some of the tools he uses to be efficient. You’ll Learn: [04:28] - Matt shares information on his background, which includes being labeled “sensitive” and being moved back and forth from advanced and standard classes. [12:32] - Matt explains why he found it easier to pay attention in math classes and he says that math has space for a lot of creativity. [14:38] - Matt talks about how numbers are abstract. An example is the fact that zero was not a number until a certain point. [16:45] - Matt looks back on the anxiety he would feel with tasks and the introduction of the “what if” monster. [21:42] - Matt says that, for him, numbers have shapes and feelings. He explains why certain numbers are comfortable and uncomfortable. [25:30] - Matt explains agile methodology and “cracking the code of you.” [32:16] - Matt points out that we overestimate our ability to remember. [33:17] - Matt talks about doing a budget. [35:22] - Matt explains that 10% of your effort gets you to 90% of your goal. The remaining 90% of your effort goes to the last 10% of your goal. [37:37] - Matt talks about his routines and some of the adaptations he uses to be efficient. [45:03] - Matt says his commute is the best three hours per day and he shares how he utilizes that time. [50:56] - Matt tells the story of his diagnosis. [1:00:07] - Matt talks about the support and love he receives from his family and the ADHD community. [1:04:25] - Imposter Syndrome is something Matt has encountered. We talk about reframing the situation by saying “Welcome to the party.” [1:14:00] - Matt shares what a real apology sounds like. [1:16:49] - Matt talks about “emotional flood” and the loss of control that comes as a result. [1:20:00] - Matt explains that made a lot of sense to him and his wife. [1:22:59] - Matt listened to the first episode of this podcast and my sharing that I felt “normal” after starting medication. He had the realization he had never felt normal. [1:26:00] - Matt describes his first day on medication. [1:38:44] - Matt says that if you want to be good, you have to be the best that you can be. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group Early registration of our 12th season of the ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is now open. To learn more and schedule your interview, . Early registration pricing is limited to the first 18 people. Support the podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. Learn more at ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to and fill out an application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30pm. Go to. ADHD Women’s Palooza I will be one of the presenters at the 3rd annual Women’s Palooza! Join me and over 30 other ADHD experts at this conference. This is an online event, and you can catch all of the sessions and the replays. Learn more and register at Want to be a guest? Hey! What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a Coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’d like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call .

Transcript

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0:00.0

Being young, I didn't have that tool set yet.

0:03.4

So I'm stuck in that anxiety, and I'm not turning in projects

0:08.2

and I'm not starting things and knowing you're different.

0:11.8

You know there's something about you that you're different. You know there's something about you that your flavor, your brain

0:16.0

flavor doesn't match the others, right? Like I see a lot of vanilla and you know

0:22.0

nothing wrong about it

0:23.8

you know it's different and don't know what that means you don't know how to

0:28.3

rationalize it. 80-H.D. Rewired episode 204.

0:40.0

This is the show designed for those of us with really good intentions, but a slightly wandering

0:46.3

attention.

0:47.6

My name is Eric Tivers.

0:49.1

I'm a licensed clinical social worker, coach, and speaker.

0:53.0

The website is ADHD rewired.com.

0:56.9

We know that starting is the hardest part,

1:00.0

so let's get started.

1:02.0

But first, let me tell you about this.

1:05.2

Because of this group, I was reactive.

1:07.5

I always responded to every stimuli that found its way

1:10.0

into my consciousness.

1:11.3

But now I'm proactive. I think ahead, I'm prepared, I think about time

1:16.4

way in advance and I have a North Star on which to aim myself.

1:22.1

Including today, February 6th, there are only four more early registration days for

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