2024 GREATS: 925: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Feeling Guilty with Dr. Aziz Gazipura

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🗓️ 19 December 2024

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

Dr. Aziz Gazipura explains the dangers of people-pleasing tendencies and shares actionable steps for overcoming it.

— YOU’LL LEARN —

1) The massive costs of being a people-pleaser

2) How to not feel guilty when saying no

3) A surprising strategy to build your discomfort tolerance

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— ABOUT AZIZ —

Dr. Aziz is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on social confidence. In 2011, Dr. Aziz started The Center For Social Confidence, which is dedicated to helping everyone break through their shyness and social anxiety.

Through confidence coaching, audio and video programs, podcasts, a detailed blog, and intensive weekend workshops, Dr. Aziz has helped thousands of people all over the world increase their confidence and lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of.

He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim.

• Book: Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself (site)

• Book: Less Nice, More You: Stop Hiding & Become The Most Bold, Authentic Version Of You Now

• Mini course: “5 Steps to Unleash Your Inner Confidence”

• Organization: Social Confidence Center

• Website: DrAziz.com

— RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE SHOW —

• Study: Effect of Pain Reprocessing Therapy vs Placebo and Usual Care for Patients With Chronic Back Pain - A Randomized Clinical Trial

• Book: Free to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael Hyatt

• Book: The Way Out: A Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Healing Chronic Pain by Alan Gordon, Alon Ziv

• Previous episode: 830: Lessons Learned from the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger

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0:00.0	Hello and happy holidays to you and your family and friends from all of us here at How to
0:04.4	Be Awesome at your job. In the last couple weeks of 2024 here, we decided to represent
0:11.0	some of the greatest episodes of 2024 that you may have missed. And their greatness is based
0:17.8	upon, I think it's great. My team think it's great, and the data from Apple Podcasts and Spotify, et cetera,
0:24.2	says that they're great.
0:26.1	And part of the motivation for this was I was in my podcast mastermind group meeting.
0:30.6	I recommended a book, and one of my fellow podcasters said,
0:35.8	yeah, this is a fantastic book.
0:37.0	I've read it 30 times. I said, what? You've read it
0:40.7	33? Zero times. Like, well, the two books, I had one of them 20 times. The other one 10 times.
0:47.0	I thought, wow, I have a tendency to rush to the next new thing because it's fun and interesting
0:54.0	and it tickles my brain in a way
0:56.1	because learning it itself is fun. I think there's also really value in pausing to revisit
1:01.8	the most transformational, excellent bits of reading, listening, learning wisdom that you've bumped
1:08.7	into. I think this first episode that we're representing really fits the bill. Episode 925, How to Stop People Pleasing and
1:15.4	feeling guilty with Dr. Aziz, Gazapura, as you're headed into the holidays and you're
1:20.3	reconnecting with family. There might be some old dynamics, relationships that resurfacing
1:25.7	with regard to people pleasing and your role and
1:28.3	trying to appease others. And I think this has some great wisdom to bring back up right now.
1:35.3	So I hope you enjoy Dr. Aziz.
1:38.9	Welcome to the How to Be Awesome at Your Job podcast.
1:43.3	So I was just speaking with a woman just two days ago.
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