201. Julie Menanno Dives Deep into Attachment Theory and Creating a Secure Relationship

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🗓️ 2 October 2023

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe.

Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don’t identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them.

To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it’s fulfilling. Remember, it’s not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar!

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0:00.0	It's relationships with the flavor of insecure attachment that they manage to stay together
0:05.6	for decades.
0:06.6	It's not necessarily a death sentence for a lot of couples, but it is not ideal.
0:12.0	There's something far better.
0:14.5	I'm Amy and I'm Abby and as women, we are constantly comparing ourselves to others.
0:25.0	But your life isn't supposed to look like hers.
0:28.2	Being your best south means standing firm in your decisions and always being willing
0:32.3	to grow with a purpose.
0:33.9	We get vulnerable and real, with an honest look into the challenges and triumphs we all
0:39.2	face.
0:40.2	Every woman listening is an opportunity to choose what life looks like for herself.
0:44.4	You guys are in for a treat because today Abby and I sat down with Julie Manano.
0:55.8	She is a therapist and a mom of six and we had a conversation about secure and insecure
1:03.8	relationships based on attachment styles.
1:06.9	Abby and I were mind blown during the interview.
1:10.6	It's something that I think is going to be so valuable to you and your partner.
1:15.0	So buckle up for this one because you are about to learn a lot more about your relationship.
1:21.3	Julie, we know a lot of therapists, they really narrow down their expertise and they get
1:24.5	focused on providing help in a specific area of people's lives and you do such a good
1:28.5	job of this.
1:29.5	But we want to know what led you to working with couples and then more specifically helping
1:34.1	couples with attachment issues.
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