200: How to Deal with Retroactive Jealousy | Feedback Friday

The Jordan Harbinger Show

Jordan Harbinger

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🗓️ 16 May 2019

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

You're having issues with retroactive jealousy regarding your significant other's past. You've tried to find resources to help you cope with this, but most of what's you've found feels gimmicky with little to no real information or exercises aimed at helping you overcome these feelings. In this Feedback Friday, we'll try to lend a helping hand.

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

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How do you go about asking for the raise you know you deserve (especially as more tasks are being assigned your way) without jeopardizing your current position?
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Is Better Help cheaper than in-office therapists, and is it covered by traditional work health options? How do you evaluate it from a budget priority standpoint?
You're trying to prove your value during your company's review period, but one of your overseers seems closed-minded to your process. What's your best move forward?
Even though you don't consider yourself possessive, you have intense bouts of retroactive jealousy regarding your partner's not-that-sordid past. How do you move past it?
Pro Tip of the Week: Instead of saying 'my ex,' say 'a guy/girl I dated.' 'My ex' insinuates that person is still a part of your life.
Recommendation of the Week: Chernobyl on HBO
A quick shoutout to Liam from the UK!
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.
Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks.

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0:00.0	Welcome to Feedback Friday.
0:01.3	I'm your host, Jordan Harbinger, and I'm here with producer Jason DeFilippo.
0:05.4	Here on the Jordan Harbinger Show, we love having conversations with our fascinating guests.
0:09.1	Then this week we had my good friend, Mark Manson, one of the best selling authors of the
0:13.5	decade with his previous book, The Settle Art of Not Giving an F. We're getting to, look,
0:19.4	he invented putting that on the cover.
0:21.6	I know what you're thinking, like, go, one of those.
0:23.2	No, this is, he originated it.
0:25.4	Everyone else followed suit because of the success of this book.
0:28.6	We get into a great conversation about how us humans find meaning and why this, the way
0:33.4	that we find meaning actually leads us to be such miserable a-holes sometimes.
0:37.3	And of course, we'll talk about what we can do about this.
0:39.9	We also had my other good friend, Ramit Saiti, one of my first podcast guests ever, 12
0:44.9	plus years ago.
0:46.4	He came to visit, we had another great conversation about how to think about money, automate
0:50.4	finances, and think about value in our lives so that we can optimize not only our financial
0:55.4	situation, but our enjoyment of the resources that we do have.
0:59.2	So there's a lot of psychology in there, not just like make a budget and cut back on
1:02.4	lattes.
1:03.4	In fact, he takes serious issue with that kind of advice.
1:05.9	And both of these guys are so friggin smart, and I just love it when I get a chance to
1:09.9	sit down and be in the mix with people as sharp as them so their work is really worthwhile.
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