Hello, hello, hello everyone. Welcome back to the Self Love Fix podcast. I hope you're all doing well.

I hope this episode finds you well. We are going to get into episode two today.

And this one's going to get a little real. We're going to start talking about some things that I know a lot of you are probably experiencing right now.

A lot of you are fed up and some of you are like, okay, what are you talking about? Tell us what you're talking about. Okay.

So we've all had that guy or two or five who have treated us less than favorably.

And I am here to tell you that you are not alone and not only are you not alone, but that how he treated,

he and other guys treated you says nothing about your worth. It says absolutely nothing about your worth.

I think a lot of times what happens is when we've had messy relationships or gotten out of messy relationships,

when someone has ghosted us, when a guy just treated us absolutely who at first appeared to be a very great guy,

but then out of nowhere, switch on us, you know, we're like, what did we do? And why why me?

And you know, just falling into this rabbit hole of what did I do? And it might be my fault or it must be my fault.

And all of that kind of just negative dialogue that shouldn't be happening.

Sis, let's not blame ourselves. Let's not tie our experiences with these men to our worth.

Hmm, I'm about to say it again. Let's not tie our experiences with these men to our self-worth.

It's the two are mutually exclusive events. I really need everyone to understand.

There's mutually exclusive events and some people are already there. If you're there, girl. Yes.

It's not all of us are there. There's many of us who are just like, is it me? Did I do something wrong?

And I want to tell you something, especially in the black community or being with being a black woman,

we have a tendency to kind of maybe tuck our feelings away or kind of have this attitude of like,

really high self-esteem and that's so great. We want to have high self-esteem, but sometimes it's kind of a facade.

It's not really what we feel inside. Sometimes we're really actually broken and we really do feel our worth is affected by these men.

But we might not talk about it because it's not really what black women do. Am I right?

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