Welcome to the place we find ourselves, the podcast where we not only talk about all things related to story, trauma and therapy,

but also have the privilege of hearing some of the sacred real-life stories of interview guests.

My name is Adam Young and this is Episode 2.

In today's episode, I talk about your story with your parents,

and what a complex and difficult subject this is to think about and to reflect on.

But that alone is instructive.

Why is it that we all have a hard time taking an honest look at how our parents treated us, that how they related to us?

No parent is perfect and no child needs their parents to be perfect.

In fact, a child only needs the parent to get it right about 50% of the time.

That's the mark of a good enough caregiver, 50% of the time.

Today's podcast looks at the six core things you needed from your parents,

and this gives birth to a discussion about what happens in your heart if these six things are lacking.

As we continue to look at story, we need to look at your relationship with your parents,

arguably the most significant part of your story.

Certainly, the relationship with your parents has had the most shaping influence on your brain and the trajectory of your story.

God created human beings as fundamentally relational creatures,

were created in the image of a triune god, a we and not an I.

And so we are at our core relational beings.

And so given the fact that we are relational beings through and through,

your relationship with the two most important people in your life is going to be rather significant in how you move about in the world.

And what I want to start with is looking at the relational needs that every single child has when they come into this world.

Every child has six core relational needs, six things that you need or needed from your relationship with your mother, your relationship with your father.

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