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I'm 11. Peter, what can I do for you? Hi there, Dr. Ler. Thank you so much for taking my call. My pleasure. I'm 34. I work on a family farm that's been around since the late 1800s.

And for the past couple of years, we've kind of been battling with my uncle, kind of just wanting to pass the torch or delegate responsibilities and not really wanting anybody else to do that because he still wants to be an important part of the farm.

But at the same time, you know, it's not avoidable as far as him passing that we're not looking forward to, but all of us younger folks need to start learning how to do things or just learning by messing up doing things and we're trying, we're finding it hard to come at a crossroads where everybody's happy and communicative.

As far as I know, there's never any such place where everybody's happy. See, we have to give up the fantasy before we can knuckle down and do the reality.

I mean, if I want everything pink and you want everything blue, there's no way they're both happy. I understand.

Well, then why are you silent?

Well, I, it's whenever we just try to communicate of someone doing the planting or someone doing, etc.

Who's ultimately in charge?

It would be my uncle, my father and then my brother and my brother.

And the can't be six people ultimately in charge. There's only one person ultimately in charge.

Yes, and that's also a probably huge part of the issue.

Can you do me a favor so I don't have to rush and get the Tylenol during the break for a headache. You're starting to give me.

Just answer the question. Who's ultimately in charge of this whole thing?

I would say he would be my uncle.

Well, that's it. Then he has the final say and it doesn't matter if you're not happy.

I think people in your age range don't understand that concept. You think everybody should be equivalent. No, there are people with more power, more position, more control.

They've learned it. They got handed it whatever, but he's in charge.

So you're beneath him. Don't expect to be happy. You can always give your opinion.

You can ask nicely for things, but he gets to say yes or no, because he's the one ultimately in charge. That's it.

So if you want to be ultimately in charge, you need to get yourself your own farm.

OK, I get it's then you will be ultimately in charge.

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