2: How to Start Coaching Someone, with Matt Ross
Coaching for Leaders
Dave Stachowiak
4.8 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 28 August 2011
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
Matt Ross: Liberty Mutual
How did things go with the listening assessment from the first episode? If you missed it, download the PDF here.
How to start coaching someone:
- This is a huge missed opportunity for a lot of leaders.
- Leaders start teaching a new skill, and that’s it…before getting to know someone and without connecting it to the other person’s goals/desires.
The model for how to start coaching someone:
F – Future
R – Reality
O – Obstacles
M – Meaning
What to listen for in the interview with Matt Ross:
1) FROM model
2) This shouldn’t be an interrogation…you can jump around
3) The importance of silence
Interview with Matt Ross
Contact Matt Ross at this link
What I would do if I was Matt’s manager?
- I’d want to talk in terms of how the tasks he’s working on connect with his goals.
- If those opportunities weren’t there, I’d do my best to create those opportunities for Matt.
- This doesn’t take long…the entire interview was 14 minutes and could have been shorter.
Three reasons leaders skip doing this:
- They don’t know they should do it (but hopefully you see how helpful this can be)
- They don’t know how to do it (but now you do!)
- It takes too long (not really, per our example)
And a final reason right now, they don’t have to do it because of the economy. However, at some point better times for employees are coming and those that aren’t led well will move on.
In 2010, Harvard Business Review reported on statistics for high potential employees. They reported that:
- 1 in 3 high potential employees admit to not putting all their effort into their job
- 1 in 4 believes they will be working for another employer in a year
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everyone you're listening to coaching skills for leaders this is episode number two recorded on August 28th 2011 Innovate learning, maximizing human potential. |
| 0:14.6 | Welcome to coaching skills for leaders. |
| 0:21.0 | Welcome to coaching skills for leaders. My name is Dave Stahoviac. This is the show for |
| 0:26.8 | leaders who want to develop their coaching skills so they can influence the success of others, |
| 0:31.7 | their organizations, and themselves. |
| 0:34.0 | Whether you're a season leader or you're leading people for the first time, |
| 0:37.0 | improving your coaching skills will drive your success and most importantly the success of others. |
| 0:43.0 | Today's topic, how to start coaching someone. |
| 0:47.0 | Well, welcome back to the second episode of coaching skills for leaders |
| 0:51.0 | and you may have noticed at least one improvement hopefully from the |
| 0:54.3 | first episode and that is the music. |
| 0:57.2 | You know sometimes you make a decision and decide something sounds great and then you listen |
| 1:02.4 | back to it at a later date like I did with the first episode of the show and you realize you pick the |
| 1:08.0 | Absolutely worst music you possibly the worst |
| 1:15.0 | the music from the first episode was probably the worst |
| 1:16.9 | corporately elevator music type thing I've ever heard so hopefully you |
| 1:21.8 | like the music a little bit better and more importantly we're back for the second show and I'm |
| 1:27.7 | curious how things went with the listening assessment that you may have checked out from the first show. |
| 1:33.5 | The last show we talked about how to become a more powerful listener. |
| 1:37.1 | That's episode number one. |
| 1:38.5 | You can go back and check it out online if you haven't already. |
| 1:41.7 | And I mentioned on that show that there was a listening |
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