Yo, today's Q-O-D is the hardest job you will ever do in life is to parent.

Here we go. Oh, Welcome back to the Court of the Day Show. I'm your host Sean Croixson and Sean Croixen.

We got a brand new speaker on the show today. His name is John Bradshaw. In this talk, the full then talk, if you are a parent,

I highly recommend you watch the whole thing. It was really, really, really good. And what John's going to talk about today is raising children to have a healthy

sense of shame, not the kind of toxic shame that a lot of us got stuck with.

John Bradshaw's coming up.

Good evening, folks.

I'm going to talk to you this evening

about a problem that has been the most important

probably single thing for me to understand in my own life in the last 10 or

15 years and and that is the problem of shame.

15 years ago I knew the word shame, but I had no idea that the major problem in my life was focused on the problem of shame.

Because my belief is that until we understand toxic shame and how shame is internalized and moves from being

a feeling, which it is a healthy feeling, there's a healthy sense of shame

talk about that in a minute to being a toxic state of being

so that we can say that a person is shame-based

or they have a shame-based identity that when that happens

that core of a person's life becomes so painful to bear that the person must develop defenses,

must develop a false self.

And those of you who watch the series, Bracha on the family,

I talked about the soul murder, the lost self,

and that this is the great tragedy

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