You end up later in your life truly resenting the fact that you can't be who you really are

and that this relationship only works as long as you're saying yes.

Welcome everybody to the Love Life podcast with me Matthew Hussie. I have got Steven Jamison

and Audrey all in the room with me in LA which is a special treat because Steven you're normally

coming to us from London. I am indeed and I'm very honoured to be in the hot seat.

It feels great to have us all here and not looking at you on a screen. Today we're talking about how

we've become too nice to people we like and how that kills attraction. I think this is going to be

a great episode for everybody because if you've found yourself starting to put someone on a pedestal,

if you've found yourself starting to like someone to the point where you feel like you're

acting different than you normally would or you're allowing behaviors that you normally wouldn't

or even just in more subtle ways. You're just sort of being a different version of yourself

in a way that's not entirely helpful. This is going to help restore the balance and get you back

to a place of personal power because it's from that place that we are our most attractive selves.

Before I do that I wanted to just make sure everybody if you haven't already goes and downloads

our guide on texting is called the nine texts and you can get it at ninetexts.com. So go check

that out. There's nine specific messages that create attraction with someone you like at nine

texts.com and you can use the number nine or the word nine.

All right, let's jump into it. So why is it we become too nice with someone we like?

There is an interesting switch isn't there between there's something like a before and after.

Sometimes by the way there's barely any before. Sometimes you've decided that from the moment

you see someone you've you know you look at them across the room in a public setting.

They're a stranger who just walked into the place where you are having your lunch on your

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