#197 Michaeleen Doucleff: The 4 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make

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Shane Parrish

Business, Society & Culture, Technology

4.7 • 3K Ratings

🗓️ 25 June 2024

⏱️ 73 minutes

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What ancient wisdom and modern science reveal about raising exceptional children. Through years of anthropological research and scientific inquiry, NPR correspondent Michaeleen Doucleff uncovers the counterintuitive principles that shape human development across cultures. This isn't about quick fixes or parenting hacks—it's a deep examination of how successful cultures have developed emotionally intelligent, capable humans for generations. Essential insights for leaders who understand that raising children, like building great organizations, requires sophisticated systems thinking and proven frameworks. Newsletter The Brain Food newsletter delivers actionable insights and thoughtful ideas every Sunday. It takes 5 minutes to read, and it’s completely free. Learn more and sign up at https://fs.blog/newsletter/ Upgrade If you want to hear my thoughts and reflections at the end of the episode, join our membership: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://fs.blog/membership/⁠⁠ and get your own private feed. Follow Me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/farnamstreet Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-parrish-050a2183/ Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (04:12) How (and why) we've lost our way as parents (08:02) The rise of the nuclear family (13:46) TEAM Parenting: T (17:20) TEAM Parenting: E (23:01) Why you don't need to praise your child (26:12) TEAM Parenting: A (36:42) TEAM Parenting: M (38:34) "Kids do not need to be entertained" (39:12) Technology, parenting, and transmitting values (1:02:59) Resources parents can use to educate kids about technology (1:04:50) How you can use the environment to give kids autonomy (1:09:56) Success and parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I spent 12 years at NPR covering mostly viruses and they would send me around the world.
0:05.2	What was really surprising to me and why I went on this journey to like learn this other way of parenting was when I came back to San Francisco and I tried some of these techniques and methods.
0:14.8	They worked like amazing on my little girl.
0:17.3	So what are some of these tips? I mean, you summed it up with an acronym of team.
0:21.1	Yes. What is team and like let's make them practical for people? So the first thing, T is like this
0:26.6	idea of like a lot of the Western relationship, parent-child relationship is based on control.
0:32.7	But E is a different way. And the next one is autonomy. Yeah, this one's huge. If you could just change like one thing in your child's life, that would be...
0:42.3	M, I guess.
0:43.3	We've sort of talked about this a little bit in a circle.
0:45.3	Yeah, it kind of puts it all together.
0:46.3	The M is like...
0:47.3	So praising is a really interesting topic that's very unique in Western society.
0:52.3	In my entire travels, I've never seen a parent
0:54.8	friends a child.
0:55.8	Like it's not necessary.
0:57.5	Okay, we do video games.
0:58.5	It's like seven, eight.
1:00.2	Every day.
1:00.8	Every day.
1:02.0	I would cut out every day.
1:03.8	Oh, I can't, yeah, no.
1:05.6	But they don't need it.
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