196 SelfWork: Turning Being PIssed Into Something Productive Using DBT
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 4 September 2020
⏱️ 31 minutes
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Summary
Today we’ll be focusing on anger in relationships. I've seen anger completely mismanaged and it can sabotage what started out as a relationship with much potential. We'll discuss some basic characteristics of anger that are vital to know, as well as a specific dialectical behavioral technique called DEARMAN - which is an effective way of remembering and practicing how to communicate with others about your anger, disappointment or frustration.
Our listener email today is from someone who heard my interview with Chris Do on YouTube. She asks what to do when she’s getting a divorce and how to handle a sense of isolation and lack of money. These are practical problems so many people have – and it can seem as if there’s no way to help yourself. But you can look for what you have control over.
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Explanation of the DEARMAN technique
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work. |
| 0:29.0 | Hello and welcome to self-work. This is Dr. Margaret Rutherford. I'm a clinical |
| 0:34.1 | psychologist out of Fable, Arkansas and I'm so glad you're here. I started self-work |
| 0:39.6 | about four years ago to try to reach out to many of you who are very comfortable with |
| 0:44.4 | therapeutic issues and just want to learn more to those of you have an initial |
| 0:49.0 | diagnosis of depression or anxiety and are looking for answers. But also to a third group. For those |
| 0:56.2 | of you who might say you never darkened the door of a therapist, but you're just |
| 1:00.0 | interested enough to listen to a podcast like Self-Works. Welcome to you all. I |
| 1:06.2 | totally forgot during the last podcast to ask more of you to send me a |
| 1:10.1 | voicemail from my website or your show notes on why you listen to self-work. |
| 1:15.7 | It's for the 200th episode where I want to celebrate you. |
| 1:19.2 | I need several more of them please, so don't be shy. You don't have to say who you are and there are two |
| 1:24.8 | ways to do it probably the easiest ways to go to my website at Dr Margaret Rutherford |
| 1:29.4 | com and you'll see a banner with record question for podcast on it. |
| 1:34.0 | Click there and then leave a message or you can go to the show notes for the episode you're |
| 1:38.8 | listening to this very one and at the bottom you'll find an icon called Speak Pipe that you click and leave a |
| 1:44.9 | message. The message can be up to a minute and a half long and we'll feature |
| 1:49.0 | you on the 200th episode. If I don't get enough we won't do it. But I need to get them from you in the |
| 1:54.8 | next two weeks. So I hope I'll see some more come on in. Thanks so much to the people |
| 1:59.8 | who sent them in already and it means so much. Today we're going to be focusing on how |
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