I don't even know how to respond to that.

I'm Angela Duckworth.

I'm Mike Mann and you're listening to no stupid questions.

Today on the show, can you be too agreeable?

What can I do to help you solve your problem? And then. Hello Angela. We are on our fourth personality trait of the big five. These have gone fast.

Oh my gosh, three down.

Here we go.

So today we are talking about agreeableness.

Right.

And we have a great question to set this up.

High NSQ, it's really important to me to be kind and empathetic. I volunteer, I

donate to many charities and non-profits and I try to give everyone I meet the benefit of the

doubt. I don't regret any of these behaviors but I've been taken advantage of many

times because of them. Friends always know that I'll help out when they need

help moving or want a ride home from the airport, but they are

suddenly busy when it's time to reciprocate.

I've also been scammed out of money when I thought I was helping someone in need.

My therapist tells me that I'm too nice, but I don't want to be meaner.

Basically my question is, can you be too agreeable? Faith.

Like I assume that Faith, who probably took the Big Five inventory on our website scored really high in Big Five agreeableness.

And I'm going to guess that you also scored super high in this personality factor.

So this was my lowest of the positive scores.

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