189 // The Happy Later Fantasy

The Mindful Kind

Rachael Kable

Mindfulness, Mindful, Health & Fitness, Self-help, Inspiration

4.6 • 636 Ratings

🗓️ 15 August 2019

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Summary

Hello and welcome to episode 189 of The Mindful Kind podcast.

In this episode, I'm sharing my thoughts on a struggle I used to experience regularly, which I call the "Happy Later Fantasy".

When I was indulging the "Happy Later Fantasy" I was escaping my reality (because I felt like it wasn't good enough) to picture my "perfect future" and all the happiness I would feel one day.

The problems with doing this on a regular basis?

I was practicing the opposite of gratitude by focusing on all the things I didn't like in my life
I wasn't taking responsibility for finding happiness in my daily life - I was just waiting for it to magically appear once I achieved certain things.

Here are 3 tips to stop indulging in the "Happy Later Fantasy":

Be more mindful and appreciate the meaningful moments in your daily life
Deliberately create happiness by engaging in hobbies and self-care, spending time with loved ones and exercising regularly
Let go of pressuring yourself to have a "perfect" future

Thank you so much for listening and I hope you have a wonderful week, Mindful Kind.

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0:00.0	Hello everybody and welcome to the mindful kind.
0:07.5	I'm your host, Rachel Cable, and I'm here to share insights into my mindfulness journey
0:12.3	and inspire you to create your own.
0:14.9	Each week, this podcast will bring fresh and exciting news about mindfulness,
0:19.7	from my personal experiences to useful tools and different
0:23.6	mindful techniques.
0:31.6	Hello and welcome to episode 189 of the Mindful Kind podcast.
0:37.1	In this episode, I'm going to share my thoughts on what I like to
0:40.8	call the Happy Later fantasy. When I was about 20 years old, I went through a stage of thinking a lot
0:47.2	about my future and all the things I wanted that I thought would make me really happy.
0:53.2	I daydreamed about having a house and a successful career
0:56.5	and a loving family and I told myself over and over, one day I'll get there and that's when I'll be
1:03.5	happy. However, I used this happy later fantasy almost as an excuse or a reason to not be happy with my life at that point in time.
1:13.3	I was working a few different jobs to support myself through my studies at university.
1:18.5	I felt overwhelmed about keeping up with the daily tasks at home like cooking and doing the
1:23.7	dishes and cleaning. I woke up every morning with a feeling of anxiety in the pit of my
1:29.7	stomach. I was having doubts about the relationship I was in at the time. I'd given up on my
1:35.0	hobbies and I just felt really lost. I knew I wasn't taking good care of myself and I wasn't
1:41.0	happy in my day-to-day life. I was really struggling to cope with my emotions
1:46.1	and I escaped by dreaming about the future.
1:49.5	It was a relief to be able to say to myself,
1:52.0	I know I'm not happy now, but one day,
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