This is Optimal Living Daily Episode 1863.

Fear is not the enemy by Christo Riley Davi DeGhi of a Life in Progress.ca.

And I'm Justin Malik, your very own personal narrator today and every day.

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Fear is not the enemy by Christo Riley Davi DeGhi of a Life in Progress.ca.

I woke up crying again last night.

I dreamed that I was pregnant with my fourth child at the same time that I learned

my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer. I would have to let her go, but again.

In the 15 years since she left, I've dreamed of saying a heart wrenching goodbye to her

countless times. No matter how many versions of this I go through, I'm never ready.

My sob and wake up hurting. There's no point trying to fall back asleep after a dream like this,

so I climb out of bed to shake off this unsettled feeling. It isn't the lingering grief that is

the problem. I accept that grief comes and goes unbidded. The real danger lies in the message

inherent in these dreams that I cannot handle walking through a loss like this ever again,

that I don't have it in me. This pervasive fear of what might lie around the next corner can

keep me stuck and holding my breath if I'm not vigilant. I find it interesting that I was

pregnant in this dream, expecting. Life and death are both essential parts of this messy journey,

and to really live, we must show up for all of it. Fear itself is simply a clue that something

is wrong, an alert to danger or an indicator that we have some inner work to do. We can face fear,

walk through fear, overcome fear, or heed fear at appropriate times. Fear can be a bully,

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