Welcome to the Empowered Wide Podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without your man's conscious effort so that you feel desired in taking care of and special, even if your relationship feels completely hopeless.

I'm Laura Doyle, and today we're talking about what to do when your husband betrays you.

My guest Isabelle discovered her husband was having an affair when she was seven months pregnant.

She was so hurt, lonely, and depressed. She even had suicidal ideation.

Even when she went all in on the six intimacy skills, her husband was confused and skeptical. But today her marriage is peaceful, joyful, and better than it has ever been.

She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

That's coming up, but first let's talk about the living nightmare of your husband betraying you.

There is no worse feeling than discovering your worst fear has come true.

If most people knew that he did that, they would tell you. He doesn't deserve you.

Which feels validating because what he did was low and it was wrong and you don't deserve that but it's also

controlling and Bosky to say you deserve better or he doesn't deserve you. I used to be one of those bossy controlling people.

In my first book I thought that I was the expert on everyone's life, and I suggested that you

should leave a man who betrays you.

But I had to eat a lot of humble pies since then then because women whose husbands have betrayed them keep showing up on our campus and blowing my mind by fixing their marriages.

And I don't mean just keeping them together. I mean making their marriages shiny and amazing again,

sometimes shinier than they'd ever been. It's another great example of how no one else can decide what's best for you.

I am not the expert on anyone else's marriage.

You're the expert on your own life and whether someone else thinks you should stay or you should go is pretty irrelevant.

It's nice to have choices and to have people support your decision though, which is why we put a stake in the ground long ago

and said we're here to support women who want to fix their marriages no matter what they've done or no matter what their husbands have done, it takes

so much courage and so much humility and commitment and accountability to fix your marriage and you shouldn't have to do it alone.

But only you know if that's the right thing for you. Heck, you don't even have to want to stay some days. I mean some days you might think it's

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