You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking all about healing,

and specifically five hard truths about healing anxious attachment that you

will likely encounter if you are on a healing journey and really these truths that I'm going to

share extend beyond just anxious attachment I think if any of us are on a healing journey as I

suspect most of the people listening to this podcast

are or have been. We will often be met with instances in which there's a bit of a gap between

expectation and reality, let's put it that way, in terms of what we were hoping for,

what we expected about and what our growth and healing might entail and the reality of it, which is often a bit

messier and sometimes more challenging than we might have anticipated. So in today's episode,

I want to dispel some myths when it comes to the healing process and really frame your expectations

around what that is likely to look like, what you can expect

as you walk the path of healing, particularly in the context of anxious attachment, but as I said,

this will apply more broadly as well. And the reason that I want to talk about that is really

because I think so many people who I work with have maybe unrealistic expectations as to what it really

means to do this work and what it involves. And so there can be this sense of, you know,

something's wrong if I'm still getting triggered or something's wrong if I still experience anxiety

from time to time, still having conflict in my relationship or I've still found myself

being attracted to a certain type of person. And I think there can be this almost fantasy

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