18: How To Feel Happy No Matter What
Life Coaching with Christine Hassler
Christine Hassler
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šļø 13 January 2016
ā±ļø 29 minutes
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Summary
Advertisements, movies and even fairy tales will tell you a product, money or a prince are all you need to live happily ever after. Sorry, that is not true. External things are not the key to a happy life.
Because happiness is an inside job, we are all capable of self-generating the feeling of happiness. If we move to acceptance , we will recognize that the source of our own happiness comes from within.
We ARE capable of living our lives contently. But first, we must examine what we are devoted to and look into the places in our lives where being grateful of what we already have can elevate us to acceptance. It is normal for humans to lead lives full of ebbs and flows.
Our caller, Jennifer, is putting pressure on herself to figure out her entire life even though she is only 24 years old. She has an expectation hangover about not being where she thinks she should be in her career. She is waiting for something external to bring her happiness and to spark her passion.
People with high expectations tend to not feel happy more often. Listen to this week's Coaches Corner ā Is it possible to be happy all the time? ā for an in-depth look at the secret sauce to overcoming an expectation hangover.
My Bali Retreat, in September 2016, will fill up quickly so if you want more information please contact Jill at jill@christinehassler.com
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Consider/Ask Yourself:
- Which "if then" and "if when" equations have you set up to define your own happiness?
- Do you think you should be further along in your life?
- Do you think it's too late to be happy?
- Are you feeling depressed in your life and expecting something to come and save you?
Jennifer's Question:
Jennifer feels stuck. She tries new things but gives up on them easily. She wants to know when the spark will come to keep her from feeling lost and unhappy.
Jennifer's Key Insights and Aha's:
- She pretends she can find happiness outside herself
- Surrounding herself with people she loves brings her happiness
- She wants things to come to her without working for them
- She hasn't taken action to keep herself from being disappointed
- She is not supposed to figure out her entire life by 25
How to get over it and on with it:
- Realize happiness is a moment, not a permanent state
- Have low attachment and high involvement
- She can create the feeling of happiness anytime she wants
- Accept herself, quirks and all
- Take a comedy or an improv class
- Make two people at work smile every day
Tools and Takeaways:
- What will it take for you to fully accept your life as it is right now?
- Stop trying to do things. Either do something or don't. There is no in between.
- Do what you need to do to de-blah yourself and get your mojo back on.
- Create happiness on the inside by starting with gratitude
- Be a happiness ambassador
- Physically connect with people
Resources:
christine@christinehassler.com
jill@christinehassler.com to sign up for the Bali retreat
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Over It and On With It. I'm your host Christine Hasler and for over a decade I've been a life coach, speaker, and author. |
| 0:10.0 | Each week you'll hear me work directly with a caller as I coach them through a goal they want to accomplish or an obstacle they may be facing. |
| 0:16.0 | I'll provide a blend of practical and spiritual advice as well as tangible actions you can apply to your own life. |
| 0:22.0 | Now let's get on with the episode. |
| 0:24.0 | Well, hello everybody recording this on a rainy day in Los Angeles which is so |
| 0:34.9 | wonderful because we so need this rain here in California and I'm just |
| 0:40.8 | cozied up by the fire listening to the rain and recording this episode for all of you, |
| 0:45.3 | which just makes me so happy, which is perfect because today's episode is really about happiness. |
| 0:51.7 | So how many of you would like to feel happy more? I'm sure that for most of you |
| 0:56.0 | the answer is yes to that and I'm also sure most of you've heard that happiness is an inside job. |
| 1:02.2 | You intellectually understand that your happiness does not come from |
| 1:05.4 | anything outside of you, yet I suspect that there's still a part of you that thinks that |
| 1:10.9 | if only you had the job or the relationship or the money or the body or whatever |
| 1:15.4 | that thing is that you want that you'd be happier. It's totally okay to admit that. |
| 1:21.0 | We live in a culture that reinforces a fixation on |
| 1:24.4 | external thing. You know we see people on Facebook getting married and changing their |
| 1:28.3 | relationship status and commercials that believe that if we only had a certain car |
| 1:32.2 | a certain figure then we'd be happy and be with all the cool kids. |
| 1:36.0 | Well, it's just not true. |
| 1:38.0 | The most effective way I found to unravel my devotion to attaining any external goal that I think will make me happy |
| 1:45.5 | is really by devoting myself to my spiritual practice, moving into acceptance and sourcing my own happiness. |
| 1:53.0 | A big game changer for me was my first trip to Bali in 2006, |
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