179. The Attachment Solution One ft. Charisse Cooke

Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast

Ali Jackson

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.2 • 659 Ratings

🗓️ 22 July 2024

⏱️ 91 minutes

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Summary

Psychotherapist Charisse Cooke is back on the pod this week and Erica & Ali could have talked to her for hours! Our conversation focuses on attachment theory, answering listener questions such as how to self soothe an anxious attachment, best strategies for navigating an anxious/avoidant dynamic, and why avoidant attachment gets such a bad rap.

In Updates, Ali reflects on project management in a relationship while Erica plans her third date with Tony Soprano.

Where to find Charisse: On Instagram @charissecooke, on TikTok @charissecookeofficial, and grab her book at www.charissecooke.com.

Timestamps: Charisse joins us at around minute 26.

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0:00.0	you know, we feel a bit entitled to sort of behave a certain way. And then, yes, you're right,
0:06.4	we're in this push, push pull kind of thing of like storming out, but wanting them to kind of
0:11.2	follow us and kind of make it okay or sulking and wanting lots of endless apologies and kind of
0:17.5	making it up and whatever. And we can actually be quite punishing. So I think it's
0:21.5	useful to see that. People think, oh, anxious attachment is all needy reassurance. It's not. It's also,
0:27.7	watch out. You're going to get cracked. Hello, hello, and welcome back to another episode of Finding Mr. Hyde the Podcast.
0:43.7	I am my co-host, Ali Jackson.
0:45.6	And I'm Erica Spiro.
0:46.8	Hello, everyone.
0:48.1	I am just up top, so excited for the listeners to hear the interview that we have this week.
0:53.2	Yeah, we had a fantastic guest. I was very, very excited to record with her. Great insights. I think you guys are really going to love this episode. Yeah, she's awesome. Her name is Cherise Cook. She's just psychotherapist from London. And we're talking all about attachment theory. And this is a topic that comes up so much in the questions that you all submit. And we truly could have talked to her for hours. She's amazing. Yeah. I won't be surprised if people request to have her back on the show. Yes, definitely. And she is a two-time guest already. So that would be a record, which would be super cool. But before we get into that, so last week you had your second date with Tony. And he is out of town he's out of town still
1:29.2	yeah he's on his like second week home um yeah we've been keeping in touch chatting a bit
1:33.5	a little thing came up that i'm a little unsure about i've had some debates with friends of like
1:38.1	quote what does it mean so i'll throw this to the crowd here uh about he basically sent me like a lot of like nephew photos and stuff and I think I mentioned that last week a bit too.
1:49.6	You know, we like talked about kids vaguely and I kind of made the joke like, yeah, I feel it goes without saying, but like sounds like, you know, you want kids with all the nephew photos.
1:58.6	And he said, ha ha, yeah, I'm open to it. And I was like, well, with all the nephew photos. And he said, yeah,
2:00.8	I'm open to it.
2:02.6	And I was like,
2:04.3	well,
2:04.6	with all the photos,
2:05.7	it feels like you want them tomorrow.
2:08.2	Yeah.
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