Stop apologizing. Stop talking about what you're not giving people. What's not here and

what you didn't do. I want to be clear, I'm not suggesting stop apologizing for everything

always. If you're in a situation where last night you went to your friend's house, you

drank all their alcohol, threw up on their bed and commented on their mother's mustache,

please, by all means, apologize. Definitely apologize for that. This is not an episode

about dealing with wrongdoing. That is not what we're talking about on this episode.

This is about the classic example when you invite someone over to your house. As soon

as they walk in the door, you realize everything that is wrong with this house. If you're

like me, you're like, is it even legal that we live this way? Because you get accustomed

to it. You are used to living in this state of filth and chaos, and then you're kind of

seeing it through other people's eyes. Do they even feel safe here? Your temptation

is to apologize. I am so sorry. This is an actual example from my life from a few years

ago. I am so sorry that we didn't empty that potty chair that is right there in the middle

of the living room. Look at that. Boy, last time I let those kids eat burritos, I will

tell you that. I didn't see it. I know and you're like, how do you not notice that there

is an unempty open potty chair in the middle of your living room? That's the level of chaos

that I was living in when my kids were little, that I didn't. I had some guests of honor

come over to my house. They've never been back since. Is that coincidence? We don't know.

There's also an example. I can't decide if I'll tell you who it is. He kind of has a

platform. He's out there. He brought his family over. As soon as they walked in, I was

like, oh, wait a minute. These are people who have their lives together. They are classy

and they are organized. I doubt they even feel safe in this place. Then sure enough,

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