Yo today's Q-O-D is people can be disappointed in you and still love you.

Here we go. So, Welcome back to the Quota, the Day Show. I'm your host Sean Croxton and

Sean Croxton.com. We got Mel Robbins on the show today and she's gonna show

you some very practical tips for dealing with one of our biggest fears,

the fear of disappointing other people. Mel Robbins is coming up.

So many of us have this perfectionism gene and the reason why we're perfectionists is we're trying to insulate ourselves from criticism. That if you get it perfect no one will give you feedback. If you get it right

nobody's going to criticize you. If you do it perfect then no one will be able to attack you and the problem with that and that's just another side of the same coin which is the fear of disappointing people

You're managing not disappointing people,

not by lying, and not by being co-dependent,

but by actually trying to be a perfectionist

so that nobody criticizes you.

So let me tell you a story about the fear of disappointing people in my own life,

because this is the biggest trigger in my life.

I mean, it goes back to being in fourth grade, right?

It's there. And this is another thing, I literally have to

remind myself of this everybody every single day. You cannot remove the things

that trigger you. You can't. If you've been doing a pattern since fourth grade,

there will be things for the rest of your life that will trigger that pattern to come up.

But you can always choose not to repeat the pattern.

So you'll be triggered and be afraid that you're going to

disappoint somebody. That's real, that's normal, it's natural, it's part of

being a human being. I think it's interwoven into every relationship where you love

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