Well, welcome back to We Can Do Hard Things. I feel so delighted. You do? Yeah, I just feel delighted.

I've had a more coffee than usual, but also I love this place. I love talking to you too.

I love what we talk about and I love who we talk to.

We just love our community. So today we're going to continue a conversation. We started with

episode 136, carefrontation, and received a lot of feedback on about do-do-do, criticism,

and how to deal with it. Is that a question mark? No, it's an exclamation mark point. What it kind of

is a question mark because the whole word, it's curious the word, is that word accurately

describe what we're talking about. Is it feedback? Does it even count as feedback if it's from

strangers? Because presumably you have to direct something to someone for it to be a feedback.

Yes, it's a feedback. It's a feedback out. If it's public out.

Right, so and I love that. It's a force statement. Yes, I love that framing. Yes, I love that framing

because I think today what we're going to do is figure out what actually is criticism

that we should consider and what is actually just misogyny being vomited into the air. That is not

personal to us. What actually is necessary for us to consider to become bigger and better and

deeper and more beautiful and truer and what needs to be filtered out so that we can

take in what matters. I actually avoid talking about public criticism. I don't think I've ever

talked about it in a big way. Mostly because number one, I feel like whatever I focus on just gets

bigger and that part of this life has been confusing, scary, murky to me, and unhelpful.

You mean like Twitter or people like writing you letters that have problems with you?

No, I don't actually mean that. I think that I have had big luck in terms of the community of

people who interact with me directly, unbelievable actually, like the level of respect and care

and kindness. I mean, people write about our social media feeds about how unbelievably kind they

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