177: Married to an Angry Man: 3 Mistakes Wives Make

The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Laura Doyle

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🗓️ 11 April 2023

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Being married to an angry man is scary because it’s unpredictable. It’s only natural to make like a turtle and retreat into your shell because it can really hurt to get the brunt of his anger. Your brain works overtime thinking of ways to protect yourself, which is exhausting and stressful. It can also make you feel like you need to figure out how to keep him from getting angry. Or that you need to be a buffer between him and the kids. Or that you need to just get out! That’s what I used to think too, but it turns out I was making some mistakes that actually made the problem worse, not better. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about the mistakes lots of well-meaning wives have made being married to an angry man. Here’s what to do instead so you can make your home feel peaceful, calm and safe.

Then, my guest Rachel and her husband were getting divorced after 18 crazy years. She couldn’t forgive him for his affairs and drug and alcohol issues. Then Rachel decided to read something that opened her eyes. The first time she tried the Intimacy Skills, it didn’t work at all, but today her marriage is everything she ever wanted. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the Empower Wife Podcast where it's all about fixing your marriage without your man's conscious effort so that you feel desired,
0:14.6	taking care of, and special, even if your relationship feels completely hopeless.
0:20.0	I'm Laura Doyle, and today's hot topic is married to an angry man, three mistakes wives make.
0:27.5	My guest Rachel and her husband were getting divorced after 18 crazy years.
0:31.9	She could not forgive him for his affairs, drug and alcohol issues.
0:36.6	Then Rachel decided to read something that opened her eyes. The first time she tried the skills, it didn't work at all, but today
0:46.7	her marriage is everything she ever wanted. She's going to tell us how she did it, so you can do it too. That's all coming up but first let's talk about
0:55.5	being married to an angry man the three mistakes that wives make and what to do instead.
1:02.1	Being married to an angry guy is definitely scary because it's unpredictable. It's only natural to make like a
1:10.8	a turtle and retreat into your shell because it can really hurt to get the brunt of his anger.
1:17.0	Your brain works overtime thinking of ways to protect yourself, which is exhausting and stressful.
1:25.2	It can also make you feel like you need to figure out how to keep him from getting angry
1:30.1	or that you need to be a buffer between him and your kids.
1:34.0	Or it can make you feel like you just need to get out of your marriage entirely.
1:39.0	It seems like the only solution is for him to work on his anger issues.
1:45.2	Until then, nothing can improve.
1:47.6	You just have to wait for that to happen and encourage him to definitely get some therapy or something.
1:54.0	And if that's not happening, it can make you feel hopeless and powerless.
1:59.0	That's what I used to think too, but it turns out I was making some mistakes that actually made the problem worse, not better.
2:08.0	And I've discovered I'm not the only one. Lots of well-meaning wives have made these same three mistakes. Here they are, along with what
2:17.1	to do instead so you can make your home feel peaceful, calm, and safe. Mistake number one, when you're married to an angry man is
2:26.2	walking on egg shells. I know this one probably seems like we've just landed in
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